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A GGG wife wants to give her man the thing he most wants: his tongue in her ass. But she’s so ding-dang ticklish down there, it’s a no go! How can she learn to suppress her (not sexy) giggles?  A former stripper now has a “straight” job. But her co-workers are a nest of slut-shaming, sex-negative, misogynistic vipers who don’t know that she did sex work before. Should she keep her mouth shut, or tell them off?  On the Magnum we are always so happy to bring on our favorite sex toy expert- cartoonist Erika Moen. If you must buy things over the holidays, let those things be sex toys. We hear from a diabetic man who has learned that COCK RINGS are here to save his erections. And a large woman wants a toy to help her better enjoy doggity style. Pragmatic solutions abound.  And, an Australian erotic masseuse hopes that the copious layer of oil he applies for his “nude slides” will protect him against STIs.  There’s always hope.  Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness compa

A 32 year-old man had a cold sore once when he was 15. Does he now have to disclose this every time he goes in for a kiss?  As a man’s 20 year marriage was ending, he had an affair with an old friend. They were together for 2 1/2 years after the marriage ended. To this day his kids won’t forgive him for this. How can he win them back?  On the Magnum, Dan brings back our resident STI expert, Dr. Ina Park, to discuss warts that just won’t quit, telling the jerk you slept with that you have some gonorrhea, and, how to prevent recurring unitary tract infections after anal sex. Enjoy!  And, a woman broke up with her boyfriend of 8 months. He just couldn’t commit to her, saying she was…”too confident,” and his mother agrees. (It’s genetic!) Her question is whether these hurtful words should end any friendship after the breakup or should she keep him in her life? Dan’s answer may…NOT surprise you. Q@savage.love     206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or b

A gay man seeks out masseuses who turn out to be erotic body workers. They initiate a sexual encounter, which the caller enjoys very much. But is it wrong to see them? And why do they recoil when he tries to touch them? Night Terror! A woman had a great time with a dom who tied her up and got her deep into sub space, with no sex. He slept on the couch. But that night she woke him up screaming from a nightmare. He got out of there fast. Now, he’s annoyed with her, and she feels abandoned.  On the Magnum, Dan brings on Evan Urquhart, a trans man who covers trans issues for Slate. They talk about “chasers” -people who are specifically attracted to trans folks. They also dig into the confusion around trans women vs. cis male cross-dressers.  And, is there such a thing as a kink for infidelity? A woman loves to sneak around and have private adventures. But she doesn’t want to hurt her girlfriend. Is there a way she can satisfy her need to break some rules within the confines of an ethical non-monogamous relationsh

Her new boyfriend has been caught in an extortionist’s web. He wanked to a woman’s video online and she sent him and the caller video, threatening to send it far and wide if he didn’t pay her. Now the caller is wondering if this is just how the ride is gonna be with this guy.  Good news- monkeypox is on the run! Dan chats with our house monkeypox expert, Dr. Carleton Thomas to talk about how gay men were able to change their behavior and bring infections down by 90%.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Inanna Justice about her new book: Heart of the Dominatrix.  And, help this leather party newbie figure out what to do with her socks when she arrives at the event.  Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage.  Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to eff

She used to masturbate as often as 20 times in day. But after getting on medication for depression, her libido crashed. She’s off the meds now, but still hasn’t regained her mojo. How can she recover her lost sex drive?  A woman went to a sex club with her husband for the first time. It went swimmingly. But the next day she felt depleted and unsexy. What happened? Is Post-Sex Club Letdown a known syndrome? On the Magnum it’s advice columnist v. advice columnist! Dan brings on actor and journalist Ben Dreyfuss to talk about advice columns, throw some shade, cast some aspersions and generally dish about the genre.  And a we close with a couple questions about ethical non-monogamy. A man wonders when in the dating process to bring up his preference for ENM. And, a woman is dating a gal who is only reluctantly consenting to ENM. How can she teach her to embrace an open relationship?  Q@Savage.Love.  206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it

A FREE Sex & Politics, just for you, Micro listener! Here is the show which came out on September 29, 2022.  It's a conversation with Mike Pesca, host of The Gist and Not Even Mad. Dan and Mike get on like a house on fire, and we thought you might enjoy just a taste of the goodies that Magnum listeners get all the time. If you like this, please consider becoming a Magnum Sub over at Savage.Love. 

Ok, here’s the problem: She gets too wet. She only recently learned how to orgasm, and now she’s making up for lost time. But her skilled boyfriend needs a little more…friction. What can they do? A gay man got an anonymous text saying that a friend of his is a rapist and a predator. This friend has never showed any sign of such evil behavior. The caller is torn between believing victims and trusting his friend.  On the Magnum, in the birth control/abortion feuds, we’ve been getting it all wrong. We should stop focusing on ovulation and target ejaculation. Gabrille Blair who wrote Ejaculate Responsibly after a tweet went viral, talks about how impractical and unfair our current thinking is. And this Mormon mother of 6 does know a thing or two about birth control… And, a man’s girlfriend of 7 short months, announced that she just might be NB or even trans, but she isn’t sure. When the caller told her he is only attracted to women, she took it back just to save the relationship. But he can’t unhear what she told

Family drama ahoy! A married man is in a carefully constructed open relationship. But when his wife’s sister found out about it, she went ballistic and told the whole family. Now the caller is cut off from his in-laws, and never gets to see them. He and his wife are buying a house, and his in-laws want to pop over and check it out. Should he leave for a few hours and let them in?  A queer woman has a crush on her tattoo artist. She knows the crush is in an open relationship, and that their partner is hot too. Would it be too forward to propose a three-way?  On the Magnum, have you ever been broken up with via text? Have you ever dumped someone that way? Dan brings on comedian Allison Goldberg, creator of “How to Break Up By Text” to talk about this modern etiquette crisis.  A gay man is in a happy relationship with his older boyfriend. But oh how he misses the orgies. His boyfriend isn’t interested in apps or bathhouses, or any such thing. He’s willing to pick someone up in a bar, but since they are both home

A woman just broke up with her boyfriend (for unknown reasons.) He used to shower her with praise. “You could be a fashion model!!” Now that’s he’s gone, how can she find another man to who will heap her with the praise she needs and craves?  On the Magnum, Dan keeps Halloween holy by inviting scream queen Kate Siegel (The Haunting of Hill House, Ouija: Origin of Evil, Midnight Mass etc.,) to discuss relationship drama, and when to back off already. These two are like a couple of giggling sisters with a bowl of popcorn. Also, find out what Dan does every year at his house on Halloween.  Dan chats with a gay man whose partner has unilaterally turned off the sex spigot. The boyfriend compares his disinterest in sex with the caller’s disinterest in discussing philosophy. Can this relationship survive?  When doctors go wild: She used to be a straight-laced proper lady doctor. She was engaged to a man, and a virgin at that. Then she met the caller, started dating her, and is now dabbles in drugs and tattoos. But t

A married woman is pregnant with her second child. Over the years she has become more and more interested in kink and rough sex. But her husband feels pressure to be more dominant. Will she go back to preferring vanilla sex once the pregnancy hormones are gone? Why does she suddenly feel this way?  A gay man uses numbing cream to counter his premature ejaculation. When he’s topping during anal sex, is he ethically obliged to disclose this?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with Elisa Wells from PlanCPills.org to talk about the accessibility of medical abortion. The pills that end an unwanted pregnancy are safer than viagra. Wells and her team are working to make sure every woman in America has access to this medication.  A woman’s new boyfriend is into scat. He wants to watch her on the toilet. The woman is considering indulging him but wants to understand this fetish better. And is there a sexy way to poop?  Q@Savage.Love.   206-302-2064 Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines u

Ka-ching! A gay man suddenly found himself in a Fin Dom relationship when a guy dropped $100 in his account and started calling him “sir.” The caller wants to keep it going, but he also wants to make sure it’s ethical.  A student teacher is horrified to hear some of his kids call each other “faggot.” He tries to stop it and comes down hard on the bullies. How can he teach these kids not to use hate speech? On the Magnum, it’s a “What You Got?” all about squirting. Instead of focusing on the composition of female ejaculate, Swedish sexual health researcher Jessica Påfs looked into women’s reactions to squirting. Some felt like it was a feminist super-power, others felt annoyed and ashamed.  With all the hoopla around the new Jeffrey Dahmer TV show, a caller asks Dan to talk about the victim that he knew in the 80s. Dan does, and it will break your heart. Could we maybe give the true crime a rest?  Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comforta

A woman and her boyfriend use condoms. But she really, really wants his come inside her. Can she save some up, wait until there’s no threat of pregnancy, and then use it as lube? How long must she wait?  A woman has always had a hard time reaching orgasm, even before she got on mental health meds. Her girlfriend can come at the drop of a hat. The girlfriend is patient and supportive, but the caller is feeling resentful. Why can’t she come? It’s not fair!  On the Magnum, a caller asked what the hell a “sex therapist” is. Dan brings on newly minted sex therapist Julia Simone Fogelson (LCSW, CST,) to explain her profession. Do sex therapists have sex with their clients? How hard can this job be? Can I become one?  And, although a man and his boyfriend are having the time of their lives using a chastity cage, the caller’s butthole tightens up when he’s using it. How can he ease the situation? Q@Savage.Love   206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog

His last girlfriend was into spanking. They both enjoyed this very much. You know who didn’t enjoy it at all? His dog, who now whimpers whenever it’s master starts kissing someone. How can he train his sensitive pooch to be more kink-positive? A man is dear friends with a straight couple. But they are breaking up bitterly, and the woman is demanding that he choose between them as friends. How does one navigate this sort of unpleasantness? On the Magnum, Dan brings back YA author Adam Sass (Surrender Your Sons and The 99 Boyfriends of Micah Summers) to talk about his new book, and how gay-oriented novels are being censored and removed in the places they are most needed.  And, hear Dan counsel a sub with low self-esteem.  Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/savage.  This episode of the Savage Lovecast is sponsored by OMGyes.co

A woman discovered that her 80 year-old father has been downloading porn, and it’s mucking up his computer. She *could* teach him about Pornhub and other streaming sites. But her father already spends too much time in front of a computer, and really could use some exercise and contact with people. Will more porn just isolate him further?  A dom man wants to do anal with his female sub. But she isn’t interested. How can he try to inspire her to be more game without invoking his dom status?  On the Magnum, the interview with beloved monkey pox expert Dr. Carlton Thomas begins innocently enough. Cases are coming down, as more gay men get vaccinated. Then he and Dan veer into wilder territory, and you don’t want to miss it.  A lesbian from Texas has a lot of tattoos. Is it too dangerous to send nudes when she can be so easily identified?  Q@Savage.Love     206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Doordash. Get breakfast, lunch, dinner and more delivered from your favorite restaurants right to your doorste

If you were married for 13 years and your husband never gave you orgasms, and then when you told him this, he lied and claimed that he was never coming either, would you stay married to him? Would you really? A gay man worries that he might be freysexual. He loses sexual interest once he gets to know his partners well. Is there a cure for it? On the Magnum, in a new “What You Got?” Dan interviews Camilla Cenni, a sex researcher who makes a convincing case that monkeys use objects as sex toys. And, how long should a woman put up with a man who texts and video chats, but refuses to meet in person?  Q@savage.love       206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 15% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase

A straight man in his 40s can only come if his lady is so, so, very wet. Is this a kink? Also, as he and his partners are aging, the likelihood of his finding a woman who can accommodate him diminishes. What can he do to ensure middle aged orgasms for all? A man’s husband has a lush, silky beard. Other men just need to touch it! The caller hates this, and wishes they would leave his husband’s pretty chin alone. How can he learn to politely rebuff their advances? On the Magnum, a woman struggles with sex when her boyfriend initiates. Past trauma gets in the way of her enjoyment. Dan brings on Rena Martine, a women’s intimacy coach, and former sex crimes prosecutor to talk about ways of breaking the bad associations between sex and fear. She also advocates for BDSM as a healing modality.  Finally, a gay man just joined a new gym, and finds he’s got some exhibitionist tendencies. But he wants to make sure he’s being a good gym citizen. What is the etiquette amongst the sweaty brotherhood?  Q@Savage.Love    206-

A woman’s fiancé wants her to ride him. She’s game but feels self-conscious because she’s big and has some body issues. He loves her body just as it is. How can she embrace her inner big cowgirl?  A woman is dating a few men casually. Some of these guys do bondage and impact play leaving the evidence on her body, which she really loves. But when she shows up with marks from another man, some of her lovers get angry in a way that feels unsafe to her. How can she resolve this? On the Magnum, did you know they were suuuuuper kinky in the Middle Ages? Dan chats with Medieval historian Eleanor Janega, about St. Sebastian, the ceiling porn that is the Sistine Chapel, and the timelessness of spankos. Her blog Going Medieval is a kick- check it out.  And, a man has a crush on his girlfriend’s sister. He’s a bad liar. Should he tell his girlfriend how he feels, or keep it in and wait for the crush to fade?   Q@savage.love     206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, se

A tantric tease gave his buddy a long, erotic, boner-ifying massage which the caller describes as the best non-penetrative sex he has had…ever. But the dude is in a monogamous relationship, and because there was no penetration, never considered it cheating. Now the caller is panting with lust and wants more.  A woman’s friend was dating a guy who claimed to be a recovering sex addict. But the caller discovered that he was concurrently dating another woman, telling both of them that they were his one and only. Having learned this, the friend is not quite ready to DTMFA. How can the caller help to get her there?  On the Magnum, Dan politely spars with Katherine Dee, an internet writer who has been following some key players in the “sex negativity movement.” How can we reconcile the promises of the sexual revolution with rising reports of female dissatisfaction? And here’s something you’ve never heard on the Lovecast: “There’s something wrong with you if you’re into bondage.” Somehow, Dan keeps his cool.  And, a

A polyamorous trilingual woman wants to explore dirty talk. Her lovers all speak different languages. But she finds that when she’s talking dirty in her mother tongue it sounds and feels more aggressive than she would like. Any multi-lingual dirty talkers out there with wisdom to share?  A bi woman and her man used to go to co-ed bathhouses. Once covid hit, they stopped. Now that there’s monkeypox to consider, should they stay out of this bathhouse? Or can they still go if they only play with each other while they’re there? Dan brings on medical writer Benjamin Ryan to go over some pros and cons.  On the Magnum, we present an interesting conundrum and an even more interesting guest. A 45 year-old woman’s parent came out as a trans woman a few years ago. The daughter uses she/her pronouns, but gets hung up when talking about the past. She remembers growing up with a father, not two mothers, and her parent encourages use of the word “dad” to refer to that time. But that’s hard! Dan brings on Chrissy Stroop, an

A man is about to have his wedding. He and his fiancé are swingers, and he wants the whole wide world to know it. His fiancé is more reticent to let family members know. Should he tell his children that they will be staying at a swinger’s resort after the ceremony and that they plan to bang a couple of their wedding guests?  Monkey pox isn’t going anywhere folks. Dan brings back Dr. Carleton Thomas to talk about the vaccine, and how to communicate about it better.  On the Magnum, Dan brings back cherished cartoonist and mental health coach Ellen Forney to talk about mood disorders, and whether to leave your pills out by the bed. Forney’s books “Marbles” and “Rock Steady” are must-haves whether you have bipolar, love someone who does, or are just interested in the subject. And, meet a woman who embodies the concept of GGG with exceptional valor. Her boyfriend was delighted when she accidentally peed during sex and then asked if she would, well, you know,…poop. Her concern? She’s a giggler and worries she’ll la