Pamela R Haynes

Biography   I am Cath Lloyd, TEDx speaker, author of ‘When Dad Became Joan’ and an expert in supporting those struggling to release the pain of loss and flourish through change. In 1987, my Dad made the shocking confession that he wished to become a woman. Through the years of emotional, conflicting and tormenting thought processes, I wondered if life would ever feel normal again.  You see my Dad had sensed he was different from the age of 5 and spent 45 years learning how to become the expert in deception.  So, when he opened up to me it was a total shock. We all have a story about coming to terms with change, whether this is transgender reassignment, separation, loss, illness, disability or living through another trauma.  As we live through our story we do the best we can with the strategies we have at our disposal.  Sometimes these are not enough and we have to search long and hard to find alternatives. As an adult education teacher working in male prison, I learnt how to see the other side of the s