Relationship Dish

This week the therapists dish and dive about grief. Not the grief we feel from the death of a person, but rather the death of a fantasy. When we realize that our partner is not exactly what we want or cannot meet certain expectations or longings, we go through a similar process to the grief process. We feel angry, we bargain, we deny and ultimately if we can accept what is, then we can fully grieve what we don’t have. On the other side of grief is openness and a renewed sense of what is possible. The therapists learn that if they can get out of their own way, they actually  have partners who can and do exceed their expectations and longings in many areas. If you can start grieving the fantasy, then you can open yourself up to the real and wonderful person who is right in front of you.