Sex With Dr. Jess

Andrea Werhun, author of Modern Whore, joins Jess and Brandon to share her personal story as a sex worker, performer and author. She discusses her beautiful journey into sex work and how her work has shifted during physical distancing and isolation. They also discuss: What makes an escort enjoy the experience with a client How sex workers and their clients build trust and connection in their relationships Andrea’s Hire-A-Muse packages The coming out process and Andrea’s story of sharing her truth with her Mom & Dad How to be an ally to sex workers and how to be sex worker-positive Jess’ experience with sex workers at her first SAR Sex work as a healing profession The benefits of sex work Insights from sex work that can benefit all daters Stripping vs. Escorting and the whorearchy  The importance of labour rights for sex workers Follow Andrea on Instagram & Twitter. Follow Modern Whore on Twitter & Facebook. This podcast has been sponsored by Let'sGetChecked. Use code DRJESS to save at

Wendy Miller, host of Sex Ed The Musical Podcast, joins us to discuss her experience as the former Head of Production with PlayboyTV. She shares stories from the Playboy set shoots as well as insights from the Under Covers series, which explored the real stories of women from all walks of life. They discuss PlayboyTV’s Swing, the toll TV representations can take on body image and their “Sexual Golden Tickets”. Listen now and learn more! Follow Wendy on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for

Therapist Todd Baratz joins Jess to discuss the costs and potential benefits of avoidance behaviours. He shares his thoughts on: The ways in which avoidance can be functional The stress and anxiety associated with sexual avoidance How to manage conflict avoidance The importance of conflict in relationships Specific strategies to break the avoidance cycle Follow Todd on Instagram here. Check out his podcast, Your Diagnonsense.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, dia

Messages related to sexual shame are ingrained from a young age and they affect how we feel about our bodies, how we interact with sexual partners and how we experience sexual pleasure. This week, we discuss a range of approaches to relinquishing sexual shame. Consent educator, survivor-turned-thriver and founder of CONSENTParenting, Rosalia Rivera joins Jess and Brandon to share her story and insights. They discuss: Rosalia’s personal path to recovery after assault Pleasure as a route to relinquishing sexual shame How partners can support survivors when they disclose past trauma/abuse The importance of your inner compass in recognizing sources of shame Prompt questions to help you examine shame-based beliefs including: What messages did you receive about sex from your parents? What did your parents tell you about sex with their words? What did your parents tell you about sex with their actions? How did your parents react to sexual depictions on TV? What messages did you receive about sex

Pelvic floor physiotherapist, Kate Roddy, joins Jess to answer questions and share advice for keeping your pelvic floor as healthy as possible. They discuss: How to destress your vagina How to protect your pelvic floor while lifting weights and working out The forms of incontinence and how to manage them Why you don’t have to settle for peeing when you laugh How to do a proper kegel How to differentiate between pain and discomfort The Power of the Kegel Release Curve How to find the back end of the clitoris Safe vaginal & perineal massage (especially postpartum) Symptoms of an unhealthy pelvic floor The 4th trimester Follow Kate on Instagram. To learn more about the Kegel Release Curve, check out their Instagram and website.   If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be su

Jess & Brandon try one of the “Lovers Inquiries” from her new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay co-authored by Marla Renee Stewart. They discuss ways to eroticize daily interactions within the context of a busy lifestyle and work through the prompts in the “Why do I love you again?” activity. Have a listen and try it out yourself using these prompts to guide you: What was the first thing you noticed about your lover? What first attracted you to your lover? On your first date, what excited you most? On your first date, what made you nervous? Do you remember the first time you kissed? What was it like? Do you remember the first time you had sex? What was it like? What is one awkward intimate moment you wouldn’t want to relive, but are able to laugh about now? Can you remember the wildest/hottest sex you ever had? What made it so memorable? How has your partner changed for the better since you first met? And if you’re in the market for a new toy for your bedside drawer, use c

Let’s talk about food and sex and dismantle diet culture. Food and sex have so much in common and so many of us (Jess included) consider food an important component of our core love languages. Lisa Davis, author of Clean Eating, Dirty Sex: Sensual Superfoods and Aphrodisiac Practices for Ultimate Sexual Health and Connection, joins Jess and Brandon to discuss the ways in which the foods we eat affect our sex lives. We discuss: What foods have been shown to benefit sexual health? Why you may not want to “ditch” foods, but rather focus on new additions How diet affects metabolism How to rice cauliflower How diet can affect erectile dys(function) The power of flavonoids The concept of “cheat days" Follow Lisa on Instagram. If you want to learn more about her book or podcast, click here. Listen to Lisa's Podcast, Talk Healthy Today, here.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record0 your messages for us! Please record your

Do you avoid or lean into conflict? Do you fight to win or fight to understand? Do you speak up when you’re unhappy? This week, CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke of Thrive! Inc. join Jess and Brandon to talk about the upside of conflict. They discuss: How to start difficult conversations Three questions to ask yourself when you’re fighting (or about to engage in conflict) How to cultivate better listening skills Why you don’t always need to arrive at compromise or a resolution The challenge of emotional differentiation The connection between conflict and passion The 5-5-5 approach to tackling tough topics Follow CrisMarie & Susan on Instagram and Facebook. Check out their books, The Beauty of Conflict for Couples & The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team's Competitive Advantage. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone

In this quickie episode, we chat about the fact that our interest in sex has declined since the onset of social isolation. We discuss strategies for creating “responsive” sexual desire and managing distractions that detract from pleasure. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How to Get in the Mood for Sex 00:00:05 - 00:05:04 You're listening to the Sex wi

Dating coach and matchmaker, Carmelia Ray joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: What holds most people back from finding a great match How dating has changed since we’ve been instructed to shelter in place Virtual speed dating How to ease into digital dating whether you’re a new couple or living long-distance How to manage the awkwardness of digital dates As mentioned on the podcast, check out Carmelia's online dating programs on FirstDate.co. Follow Carmelia on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter.     If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a su

Since we’re trapped at home in isolation, we decided to record an extra episode this week. We talk about a fight we had yesterday and how stress levels are affecting the way we interact. We also spend some time discussing an unrelated user question: “Do I get a say in my partner’s porn use?”. We explore the difference between setting boundaries and dictating behaviour as well as specific communication prompts you can use to talk to your partner about porn. We also consider whether or not you should change your habits to meet your partner’s needs and concerns. Please see below for a rough transcript of this podcast.  Listener Question: "Do you get a say in your partner's porn habits?" You have a say in terms of having the right to speak up about how you feel. You don’t have a right to dictate how they behave. And why would you want to? If they have a desire to engage in a specific behaviour, why do you want to limit them? This isn't a rhetorical question. Explore your reasonings for wanting to limit their s

We’ve been isolating at home in Toronto for 19 days now and we thought we’d share how we’re doing as a couple — what’s working and what isn’t. We talk about some of the conflicting feelings we’re experiencing and brainstorm ways to make sure we’re still feeling connected over the longer term (since this could last a while). We talk about how we respond to unsettling emotions like anxiety and share some ideas for daters who can’t connect in person. Thanks for listening.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health o

Tova Leigh joins Jess to share her journey as a mother, woman and author of Effed at 40. They discuss: How she got over her body image issues after birth How to care less about what other people think The reconciliation of motherhood and sexuality The experience of stripping down at a nude spa The power of nude photoshoots Her new book: Effed At 40 Follow Tova on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the se

Therapist and writer, Jake Ernst, joins Jess and Brandon to discuss: Strategies for assembling your support team (AKA quaran-team) during this stressful time Apps that can help you to manage stress, transition and isolation How to manage being cooped up with your family, partner or roommates How to cope with difficult personalities and strained relationships in close proximity Ways to bring yourself back to the present and support others in doing the same How to recognize and manage signs of stress Follow Jake on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter. Learn more about Straight Up Health here or by following them on Instagram. As Jake referenced during the episode, consider Calm's 30-Day free trial. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podb

How can equine therapy with horses help couples improve communication? How can horses support survivors of trauma? What is vaginismus and what are some approaches to managing painful sex? Dr. Maha Nasrallah-Babenko joins Jess to answer these questions and more. Follow Dr. Maha on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. What We

Award winning sex educator, Tristan Taormino, joins Jess to talk about spanking, gang bangs, eye candy, social justice and mind-effing. Why you might want to attend Sex Down South this year... How to reclaim the gang bang The role of the gang bang “host” How to discuss rules and boundaries before a group sex experience Spanking rules and tools The importance of understanding your core erotic feeling The benefits of uncovering your elevated erotic feelings The role of a service top The appeal of the mind eff If you purchase tickets to Sex Down South, use code SEXWITHDRJESS for 20% off! Follow Tristan on Instagram, Twitter & Facebook. Have a listen and check out Tristan’s podcast, Sex Out Loud. If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify

On this week's podcast, panty-peddler, Lacey Bloom, joins Jess to talk about her experience selling used underwear online. What makes it so exciting and how can used underwear help to destigmatize sexual taboos? They also chat about wild requests, bodily discharge, personal kinks and finding pleasure in the mundane. Listen to Lacey weekly on The Sofia Gray Show. Follow Sofia Gray on Twitter, Instagram & Facebook. We also sat down with Sofia Gray rep, Zak Callen, to get to know the brand a little better. Check out their Q&A below! 1. Why did you launch Sofia Gray? Sofia Gray was started by a group of young entrepreneurs, who had a real interest in the adult industry. They saw that a safe and secure, well designed, quality marketplace did not exist for used underwear. Hence, Sofia Gray was born. 2. Who uses Sofia Gray - on the buying and selling side?  The demographics are pretty clear cut, the majority of our sellers are female 18-35 and the majority of our buyers are male 25-45. 3. Why would someone wa

The toll of intimate partner violence struck close to home this week and with this weighing on her mind, Jess discusses nine strategies for supporting a loved one who is dealing with an abusive partner. This isn’t a private issue, it’s a public health crisis and we have to do more to protect those at risk. Content warning: I will be talking about violence and the death of someone in my community. I will be reading some of the details of a recent death, so if you don’t feel comfortable hearing about intimate partner violence and death, please stop this podcast now. This may not be for you. Last weekend Dr. Amie Harwick, a marriage and family therapist who focused on relationships and sex was killed. She was killed in her home and was found below a third floor balcony with evidence of manual strangulation according to news reports. Her ex has been charged with murder. According to reports from court documents from 2011 & 2012, her ex choked, suffocated, pushed, kicked, slammed her head into the ground and r

Sex writer, Suzannah Weiss, joins Jess to share her personal experience with orgasmic meditation. She discusses: An alternative view of orgasm The very specific technique for “orgasmic meditation" The story of her first time with a stranger The high she gets from "extended orgasm" Her favourite sex club Advice for sex club newbies Follow Suzannah on Instagram & Twitter.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an app

This is a six minute quickie! And it’s a bit of a rant about micro-cheating. From deep-liking to chatting with an ex, what behaviours are considered cheating? And how do you deal with a partner whose behaviour is making you uncomfortable? Have a quickie listen today! Behaviours that have been classified as micro-cheating include: using emoticons, liking too many photos on an account, “deep liking” online (liking old photos), posting sexy selfies, having friends of the gender(s) to which you’re attracted, and having private DM conversations. I think this is absurd. What specifically constitutes cheating is subjective, but the micro-cheating expectations set some very narrow guidelines that simply are not realistic. In fact, some of these expectations are rooted in control, possession and monitoring that sets off some red flags with the potential to undermine respect, love and personal autonomy. Is it fair to say that anything that makes your partner uncomfortable should be classified as cheating or micro-ch