Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a single 38 year old female and I like dating older gentlemen. I’m open to online dating and I have met some nice men on Facebook, so I often look at men’s profiles and meet them that way. A handsome man in another city caught my eye and I sent him a message. We chatted back and forth and found out that we have a lot in common, even though he is12 years older than me. When we first started video chatting, I thought that he looked familiar, and we’re from the same city, so I just figured our paths crossed somehow in the past....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old single female and my family moved to the states when I was 15 so we could have a better life. In my culture, I grew up with a huge extended family and we stick close together, but now I have my own apartment and I love having my freedom. My mother often tells me that I should’ve been married years ago so she can have grandbabies, but I’m not ready for that. My parents both have good jobs and finally got the big house they were dreaming of and they have moved more family members to the U.S. to live with them......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married to my husband for 13 years, but we have been together for a total of 23 years. We have one son and my husband is a great provider for our family. I am, however, concerned about the example of manhood that he’s displaying for our son. My husband is non-confrontational, so we haven’t argued in years. If we have a disagreement, he will just agree with me, to avoid conflict. He’s always eager to help others and he does favors for his family members all the time, even if he is not feeling up to it. He rarely gets frustrated or raises his voice............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some advice, although this may not be your area of expertise. I'm a 27 years and I met my partner on a nationwide Facebook group. Because of the online group, my partner and I have mutual friends across the country.  One friend, in particular, is trying my patience by blatantly hitting on my partner in direct messages and leaving racy comments on my partner’s posts. Sometimes my partner’s comments can look a bit flirtatious too. I’m concerned that this friend is going to try to make a move and my partner is very naïve, so this is a big problem............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need some advice on a different kind of double standard with men and women. My ex-boyfriend has a lot of flaws and I overlooked them in the beginning because I was really in to him and wanted things to work out. For example, when we met, he told me he lived downtown in a brownstone. So a few weeks later, I went over to his place. I pulled up and he escorted me in through the basement door and told me he hangs out down there most of the time. So we started kissing and making out on the couch and he had managed to take off all of my clothes and most of his, when someone knocked on the door. He threw a blanket over me and went to answer the door. It was a woman at the door............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 14 years and we have two sons. My husband is a middle school principal and I work full time in an office. My husband and I have a great social life and we used to focus on keeping the romance alive in our marriage, but my boys are very active in sports now, so it’s hard to find time to hang out together. It has not affected my husband’s social life at all though. He still hangs out after work and I have a big issue with who he chooses to spend time with............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 46 years old and last year I married a man that's 18 years younger than I am. We met at the gym and the initial sexual attraction between us was magnetic, but I had my doubts about him, because of our age difference. It wasn’t long before we started having hot, passionate, sex and fell deep in love. He went above and beyond to let me know that this was more than just sex, it was real. I introduced him to my family and my daughter was not happy because he is only 2 years older than she is........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, here’s my ordeal. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and we have 3 beautiful children. One of my husband’s long-time ex-girlfriends died over the weekend and we were all shocked, because it was so sudden. My husband’s best friend is the deceased woman’s cousin, so he called to tell us the bad news. He said that the family was working out the funeral arrangements and had decided that they wanted my husband to be a pall bearer at her funeral, because the ex-girlfriend still loved him, up until the day she died. This was just too much for me to process.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I are in our late 30s and have been married for 15 years . We’ve had some hiccups in our marriage and we went to counseling to fix the issues. I thought we were doing really good since the counseling, but here we are, a year later, and my husband’s insecurities got the best of him. He created a fake social media account and pretended to be one of my exes that I dated before we got married. He started sending me sweet messages, posing as my ex, but I was very stern about letting him know that I’m happily married and not interested in him at all, in that way............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have known my partner for 5 years and we have a child together. In the beginning, my partner cheated on me multiple times and I was very hurt, but I loved him and wanted to move forward with the relationship. Everything was fine for four years and then our relationship got stale and we started arguing a lot, so we mutually decided to take a break from each other for a little while. We talked about dating other people while we were on our break and we decided that seeing other people was not our primary focus for the breakup, the breakup was for us to work on ourselves and then come back together and be a real family.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my family has a church that they’ve been going to all their life and I recently joined. I decided to devote my life to fellowship and service at this church. My pastor is great but I always thought he was a bit creepy because of the strange relationship he has with my cousin. I had been watching them for a while and then in a stewardship meeting, my pastor mistakenly called my cousin “babe or bae” and she blushed. Immediately after the meeting, I asked my cousin what’s up with her and pastor and she got all awkward and tried to lie at first, but then she ended up spilling the beans............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am keeping a secret from my sweetie and I need your advice. When I was 18 years old and a senior in high school, I was in love with a beautiful girl who was also 18 and went to a neighboring school. We were each other's first everything! Our puppy love ended when we went away to college. I got a good job and got married right after college. By the time I was 37, I was divorced and I got a job transfer back to the city I grew up in. Shortly after I moved back, I ran into my high school sweetheart............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my girl and I have been together for three years and I instantly knew she was the one when I met her. She cooks, watches sports with me, and she supports my dream to be an entertainer. Our relationship was just perfect until about eight months ago, when I was on an adult website browsing through amateur home videos and I noticed one video with a background that looked just like my bedroom. After I zoomed in, I saw that it was my bedroom, and it was a video of my girlfriend and I getting it on........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have found the man of my dreams and we have been together for 5 years. We have one child together and I’m pregnant with our second child. Our relationship is great but my boyfriend’s mother is a huge problem and I’m fed up with her inserting herself into every aspect of our lives. She comments on how we parent, our finances, my decorating style, how I cook and my housekeeping skills. Recently, our child was sick and she caused a big scene in the hospital, saying that it was my fault for not taking better care of her grandchild........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 55 year old black man and I’ve been divorced for two years and I feel that I’m a great catch for a nice single woman.  Last summer, I met a beautiful and curvy lady one morning when I stopped to get coffee on my way to work. I flirted with her and she flirted back, so I asked if I could get her number. We exchanged numbers and I told her I would call her later on that day. I started out with a text to break the ice… she told me that she was 31 years old and I felt funny about telling her my age right off, because I wanted to see if we were compatible............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a guy that I thought would be the man of my dreams, when we first met. He is a man of God and he would be a great father and husband to the right woman, but that woman is not me. I have a very high sex drive and this guy can’t keep up, so I lost interest in him and we broke up. He still takes me out on very nice dates and he visits me and my family every week, in hopes that we can get back together. In the meantime, I met another guy and he is willing and able to fulfill my sexual needs, but that is about it............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a guy that I thought would be the man of my dreams, when we first met. He is a man of God and he would be a great father and husband to the right woman, but that woman is not me. I have a very high sex drive and this guy can’t keep up, so I lost interest in him and we broke up. He still takes me out on very nice dates and he visits me and my family every week, in hopes that we can get back together. In the meantime, I met another guy and he is willing and able to fulfill my sexual needs, but that is about it.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for a year now, and since then, we have both gained a considerable amount of weight. I've gained at least 40 pounds, which is totally unacceptable for me. This extra weight has caused me to have extreme self-esteem issues, so I have changed my eating habits, I go to the gym more and I started taking an herbal supplement that my trainer recommended to increase my stamina and burn fat. The supplement gives me so much energy and I'm able to do way more reps at the gym than ever before! I can also see a few pounds dropping, so I need to keep using them............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a hardworking, educated, financially secure, good looking mature woman with a lot to offer, but since my divorce, I had been having trouble with dating because the men I meet say that I have too many prerequisites and they lose interest. My goal was to meet a man age 55 to 65, but instead, I finally met a man that is 75 years old. He is retired and he’s everything that I looked for in a man. He’s a sharp dresser, good looking, financially stable and he has good morals.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, do you think that dating rules for seniors are different than those for younger people? I need to know cause I am trying to find love again and I’m over age 60. I'd like to think that a man aged 65 to 70 would think and act differently than he did when he was 25 to 30 years old, but that's not the case. When I meet men my age, they are still interested in the cookie and I need to know if I should still be using the 90 Day Rule at my age. Then there are the other men that I meet and they voluntarily tell me that the cookie is a non-issue for them now............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.