Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, my boyfriend and I have been living together for three months. He prides himself on being the man of the house and he enjoys paying all of the bills. I handle all of my personal bills and I buy the groceries. Shortly after we moved in together, he started flexing and setting rules, saying he needed to run his household in his way. We have a one year old child and he said that it’s my responsibility to drop the child off and pick her up from daycare........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Miss strawberry. I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year and I love him so much. We hardly ever argue or fight because we live an hour away from each other so when we are together we make the best of our time. We do everything together except one big thing when we do see each other. I always find a way to avoid having sex with him. He is very handsome but when it comes to the bedroom he just doesn't have it. I hardly ever get in the mood with him. He doesn't complain much but I can tell he gets frustrated sometimes I just lie there and fake moan and lie about how good he is in bed............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 31 year old white female and I am proud to say that I am still a virgin. Five months ago, I met a very nice 33 year old black man through an online dating site. We’ve   been inseparable since we met and he’s so perfect for me. I have decided that I want to make love to him and he promised to take care of my heart and make it a memorable experience for me. I’m not sure if he’s “the one” but I’ve fallen in love with him and I want him to be my first. Here’s the problem… I suffer with anxiety and it is getting in the way of us having sex................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have heard Steve Harvey and an elder in my family say that you can train a man to do anything you want him to do. Well, I have tried it and it’s not true. I have been dating a really great guy for 3 years and as time goes on, it’s becoming clear that he has an issue with contributing financially to whatever we’re doing. He tries to do sweet things for me, but he does them in his own little cheap way. It’s never up to my expectations, but I always act like I love it. He always takes shortcuts and he finds a cheaper way to get things done............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 27 year old woman and I've been dating a 29 year old man for a year. We met in graduate school and immediately hit it off. He wants to start a business and I'm in the medical field, so we both have big dreams and aspirations. We have talked about a future together and I can see myself with him forever. But there’s a big part of my life that I’ve been keeping from him. It’s my ghetto family! I grew up in the hood and when I went to college, I promised myself that I was going to do better for myself and have a different kind of life. All of my family still lives in the hood and have no goals or plans to leave............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm in my late 40s and I’m married to a wonderful man.We had a very normal sex life until he had a car accident and became disabled. We haven’t had sex in almost two years now. We have tried everything, but nothing has worked for us. I am suffering, but I do not want to cheat on him. One night we were watching a strange movie where a man in the movie did not want to have sex with his wife anymore, so he paid a man to have sex with her and he would watch them. Since I saw that movie, I couldn’t get this idea out of my head.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I reconnected with an old high school flame in January and we got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Well before he asked me to marry him he told me about his female best friend. He told me that he had sex with his best friend years ago but they didn't have any romantic feelings whatsoever for each other. Now of course I was very uncomfortable with their friendship but I didn't stress about it because I overheard him telling her how much he loves me and that I'm the one. This past weekend my fiance invited his best friend to lunch so I could meet her. Lunch was going great............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my boyfriend and I have been living together for a year, but we’ve been together for 9 years. I have 3 kids that live with us and his mom lives with us too. My boyfriend works long hours to make sure that our finances are taken care of and I work full time too. We split the household chores and since my older kids are out of school for the summer, they have chores that we expect them to do daily. I can’t say that it really helps us out because they don’t always do their chores........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m dating a woman that is 36 years old and I’m 26 years old. The age difference doesn’t bother me much but she has a son that’s 15 and he had a problem with it at first. When we first met, everything was amazing and we couldn’t stand to be apart from one another. We were holding hands and kissing in public, constantly on Facetime with each other and we always went to church together. We have great chemistry in the bedroom and she does not look her age at all. So here is the problem… We’ve been together for two years and I moved in with her a few months ago.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, three years ago, my best friend and my older brother started dating. I was against it from the start and I told her that my brother is a sorry excuse for a man. He can not keep a job and he moves around a lot, depending on what girl is crazy enough to let him stay with her. He plays video games all day and he hangs out all night. As soon as he started dating my friend, he moved in with her and she pays all of the bills and his cell phone bill and he drives her car more than she does......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old man and my wife and I have been married for 4 years. Our marriage got off to a rough start and we separated for a short period of time in the beginning. Right after we separated, I met a chick with the body of a goddess and ended up having an affair with her for two months. I got bored with just having great sex and no real connection with this chick, so I told her I was going back to work things out with my wife. She got very upset and told me that her ultimate plan was to take me from my wife................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a big problem. Two years ago I relocated for work. Before I moved I had a special lady that I enjoyed spending time with. She was a big fine woman, thick in all of the right places. It's been a year since I had seen her and I was missing her good loving so I called her and told her I was sending her a bus ticket to come visit me. Yes, a bus ticket because a brother ain't rich. The weekend finally came and I was so excited to see her, but oh my goodness when this woman got off the bus I swear I barely recognized her. She had almost doubled in size in the past year............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have an issue with my wife's image on social media. My wife has an Instagram account and I feel like the picture she posts are inappropriate for a married woman. I don't have an Instagram account. So for a long time I had no idea what she was posting on her page. One day I asked her to see her Instagram page and as I was as I started flipping through the pics I was so shocked by what I saw. My wife, the mother of our children had some very revealing pictures posted for the world to see. I am from the old school of thought where your wife is supposed to keep covered in public and only showed those types of things to her husband............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I am I am darn near 50 years old and my wife is 40. We've been married for almost ten years and have two children both under the age of five. I want to make sure you all have the details. First of all I love my wife, but here is the problem. If I want some cookie I have to initiate it Ninety five percent of the time. Some times she will but it is rare for me. I don't want to feel like I am forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do. However I think we're both young enough to have the time of our lives. I have often gone to bed frustrated with the lack of cookie in our life. I have gone to bed naked.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have known my husband for 20 years and we've been married for three years. He cheated on me multiple times with multiple women but I'm standing by my wedding vows. I always pray that the good Lord would see us through his infidelity and now we're rebuilding our marriage. Not many women would be as forgiving as I am. Having said all of that I still have plenty of good sense and I've reached my limit on foolishness. So, you can only imagine how I felt recently when my husband asked me for a threesome. Yes............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm stuck. I've read your book Steve and I've been with my boyfriend for four years. In the four years we've bought a home and had lots of beautiful vacations together. We're under 30 years old and we have a solid relationship. He provides protects and professes his love for me. So why after four years I still don't have an engagement ring? I haven't given him my all yet because there are certain benefits that only a wife can give to her husband. He's not my husband. I never feel bad for reminding him when he complains about me holding back. When I drop hints about us moving to the next step in our relationship, he says that I'm going to have to be patient and pressuring him is not good........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Good morning Steve and Shirley, I am 50 year old divorced lady with a 28 year old lover. We’ve been together for two years but I met him when he was in college with my son. He came home a few weekends with my son and he started calling me mom back then. After college, he continued to hang out at the house with my son, so I got used to him being around. Well on Easter Sunday, 2017, things changed in an instant, when he rubbed up against me in the kitchen and I felt some kind of way. This young man is 6’2”, dark and handsome......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I really need your advice for this issue I’m having. I have fallen for someone that I have never met in person. I have heard him speak almost everyday and I'm not sure if he is single, but I would love to meet him in person. I am single and ready to mingle with him if he is available. This guy makes my toes curl when I hear his voice and the icing on the cake is that he is very funny and quite handsome. I have been single and abstinent for five years by choice. I have been focusing on my daughters and I’m writing a book about my family and it will be coming out soon........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 20 years and it’s been the longest 20 years ever. Neither of us have been perfect in the marriage, but I got myself together and I was hoping that my dumb ass husband did too. But it seems like there are far too many ways for him to do his dirty deeds now. About three months ago, he sent me a text that was intended for someone else. He wanted to meet up after work. I busted him and he lied and said that the text was for me and he was trying something new to keep our marriage interesting. I knew he was lying, so I started paying close attention to his daily call logs on the cell phone bill........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 33 year old woman and I had a one night stand with a 29 year old very sexy Brazilian guy. He gave me the best sex of my life and I never expected to hear from him again, but he called me a few days after we hooked up and now we’ve been dating for 9 months. Not long after we started dating, whenever we went out to our favorite club together, I would notice that a lot of older women approached him and they would often ask him to dance or send him a drink over to our table. This made me very uncomfortable at first, but he told me that he used to be a trainer and they were all members of the gym............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.