Enneagram For Idiots

Intro/Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMi8iILfYEg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdCyzJT59nw  **Episode starts at 10 minutes in** In this episode wrapping up the series on countertypes, we talk about: Countertypes of the body triad 8 9 1 - the social 8, social 9 and sexual 1 What kind of wedding do the different instincts do? Please write us about your experience at other people’s weddings if you know their instinct  We talk about Obama, who gives off 9 energy Marissa talks about her experience as a social 8w9 exploring topics around commitment, friendships and relationships growing up and de-escalating situations at work We briefly touch on some mistyping of countertypes Came up with a phrase for the sexual 1 countertype “this is how people should be Tara shares her personal experiences and observations with some sexual 1s (likely both 1w2 which is not mentioned in the podcast) We still owe you self-pres 3 description coming soon   Our next class is online, we're reserving 10 spots per date - lear

Intro/Outro: Ahnboi, Nobody Cares: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0eqeS6XYm-8 In this episode we continue our series on the countertypes with the emotional triad, Enneagram types 2, 3, 4. At the end of the episode, self preservation 3 gets cut off almost entirely - we owe you this part of the episode in a near future recording! Disclaimer: we had a lot of audio issues in this episode that we fixed for the next episode. We're so sorry and thank you for bearing with us!   Episode notes, topics we discussed: Refresher on the concept of countertypes Common questions each instinctual variant asks themselves that may possibly help you identify your own dominant instinct Self preservation fixations, fears, strategies and delusions We cover Self Preservation Enneagram type 2 and Self Preservation Enneagram Type 4 with a short intro into Self Preservation Enneagram Type 3 Update on Tara's old pooping cat   Resources: Marika Dentai in Enneagram Monthly: http://www.enneagram-monthly.com/subtypes.html, Truity.com, Be

Intro/Outro: Aggressive - Tolou/AmprodBeats: https://youtu.be/H6Zp79eStbw It's a new series on countertypes! In this episode we:  Explain the concept of instincts, subtypes and countertypes Kick off the series exploring the fear-based thinking triad countertypes - the sexual 5, sexual 6 and social 7 Talk about why the self pres 7 isn’t a countertype and the social 7 is (Tara is confused about this) Wonder if Kurt Cobain and Trent Reznor are sexual 5s Explore themes of toxic masculinity in sexual 6s, *trigger warning, we talk about animal abuse during this part as well*, and a sexual 6’s relationship with authority and others  The next episode will be focused on the countertypes in the shame/feeling triad types 2, 3 and 4. Resources: Beatrice Chestnut, Truity.com, Claudio Naranjo.  

In this episode: Tara rants about how 9s can be passive-aggressive (if you’re a 9 this might be triggering) We talk about Kourtney’s interactions and conflict with Kim and Khloe and Kourtney merging with Travis A little bit of talk about 9s on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills The potential differences between a 9 and 8 when interacting or in conflict We ask any 9s who made it to the end, what triggers a 9 to become passive-aggressive and wonder how disconnection to both parents influences general stress levels in relationships, potentially for sexual-dominant 9s? I hope Kris Jenner doesn’t find this episode Also where's Rob?

WE'RE BACK Intro/Outro: Lethal Needle, Shooter (YouTube) In this episode we talk about the cast of Love is Blind, season 3 and what their Enneagram types MIGHT be. Key notes: - We go off on a tangeant about Cole + Zanab - We don't get to everyone in the cast - There are some interesting discussions about the differences between 3s, 6s and 9s in stress and relationships Resources include our brains and a brief mention of an instinctual variant description from PsychologieJunkie.com (apologies if I missed any citing sources here, I'll update again here if I did)

*General instinct knowledge @ 16 min *Self-pres 3 starts @ 26 min In this episode, we talk about the self-pres 3 (aka "Vanity No Vanity") and explore how they deny their passion of vanity (in a fixated state of mind). In our typical style, we kick the episode off with a personal catch-up and some banter.   We apologize ahead of time for the audio situation. In the intro, we talk about what we’ve been up to Review and refresher of all the instincts and levels of health in the instincts SP 3s can look like 1s Tara talks about her personal experiences with SP3 Compare the sexual/social/SP instinct’s relationship to vanity SP3 motivations and fixations Enneagram 3 anxiety and how it shows up from their over-identification with roles Celebrity examples of 3s - mostly of the reality trash TV variety Ideas for being less fixated Resources we used and may have mentioned for this episode: EnneagramMonthly.com, Beatrice Chestnut - The Complete Enneagram, Sandra Maitri - The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, Perso

In this episode, we continue our series on the instinctual variants and focus on the Self-Preservation 7 AKA "The Hungry/Happy Hedonist", "The Gourmand", "The Keeper of the Castle" or... HUGH HEFNER?!?! A self-pres 7w8? Is this the same type as neurotic cult leaders? Anyway, here's what we talked about (resources are below): - How the 7s passion of gluttony + fear of emotional pain mixes with the self-preservation instinct - Anecdotal experiences of Maris' family, which is full of self-pres 7w6s - We explore how a self-pres 7 might like to exercise - Why do self-pres 7s want people in their circle to be comfortable and happy? - The self-pres 7s ulterior motives and the challenge (for us personally) in seeing it - Tips for self-growth and behaving in new ways outside of the SP7s fixations Resources: Dietnosis.com, Beatrice Chestnut, Russ Hudson, Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-discovery, Oscar Ichazo Book a consulting session with us: http://enneagramforidiots.com

Intro/Outro - Powfu - Death Bed (Save the Sky Remix) In this episode, we continue our series on the instinctual variants and focus on the self-preservation 1 aka Hilary Clinton (we kind of sort of think). Here's what we talked about: We're doing consulting now, all the details are on our website at enneagramforidiots@gmail.com If you're a part of our Patreon community, we're planning a live virtual hang out session soon, stay tuned for that Thank you for emailing about the last SP4 episode, we learned a lot and you learned a lot and that is ALWAYS THE GOAL Instinct and Self-Pres 1 learnings and discoveries (22 minutes in) Each instinct has a different kind of energy  There's a lot of learning to be done around how the passions and fixations interact with the instincts, there's so much we all don't know The SP1: is characterized by a lot of worry, anxiety, perfection and apparently "almost paranoia?" can look like a 6 but the 6 knows the world shouldn't be against them and the 1 isn't so sure struggles wit

In today's episode we talked about: We're doing consulting now! Details at enneagramforidiots.com We're continuing our series on the instinctual variants, featuring the self-pres 4s (aka I'm not sad and I don't want to be sad with you). Lots of descriptors for this instinctual variant: "tenacity" "defensive action" "dauntless". What resonates with you? We talk about the theory that the instincts have levels of health as well (Russ Hudson "Essence Emerging" meetups, A.H. Almaas, Creator of the Holy Ideas) Tara talked about her self-pres 4 experiences and then realized she's probably self-pres dominant Self-pres fours have a lot of endurance If you're SP4 are you in-tune with the temperature of the room? Other comforts? How do you go about getting your physical needs met? Talked about how the self-pres four is the counter type of the fours and can look like some other types Also talked about a self-pres four not wanting to be "held down" by other unhealthy or brooding/moping fours or people in general As a

THE PODCAST IS BACK. Thank you so much for your patience with our break.  Intro: Music by RujayInstrumental: "Next Level" by SeriouzBeatsChannel: https://YouTube.com/user/RujayTV Here’s what we talked about in today’s return episode: Thank you for supporting us on Patreon while we were away, it helped us cover our online subscriptions and keep the podcast online We are going through all of your emails, please keep sending more, we want to connect in these weird pandemic times Life update: Tara had a baby and she can’t type him, she got married and moved in with her husband (1w2 sx), moved twice after discovering cockroaches, got scammed and had a period of postpartum depression Life update: Marissa got hit by a car and tore her ACL, got kicked out of her apartment by her landlord, moved back home, went through a miscarriage, was put in a new position at work,  Discussion about Chris Heuertz and a blog post that was written by 33 women and men who shared their stories of experiencing and witnessing abuse by h

*Skip to around the 30-minute mark for mostly self-pres 2 content After we spend 15 minutes talking about public transit, we dive into the self-preservation 2 - aka the cutesy, childlike type. In this episode we talk about - Countertypes - Russ Hudson and A.H Almaas’ descriptions of the levels of health in the instincts and how instincts mature as we grow - How this instinctual variant moves both towards and away from others and is more self-protective and cerebral than other 2s - Why the self-preservation 2 positions themselves in a child-like role and how that relates to the protection of their self-image and pride - Sorry not sorry to Christians, we explore what it would look like if Jesus Christ was a self-preservation 2 for the last 20+ minutes of the episode Questions Does this 'cutesy' behaviour carry over into the bedroom? Do you have a lot of romantic partners or did you at any point? How do you DRESS? How do self-pres 2’s in your life dress? Resources: The Diamond Approach: A Path to Inner Discovery

Intro/Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0pVXEBA3PU&list=RD--YiHE-06Rw&index=22 (pilgrim) Today we’re talking about Self-Preservation dominant 8s aka NOT Marissa but Donald Trump. Also known by Enneagram resources as the "Survivalist". In this episode we cover: How Marissa isn’t self-preservation dominant and Tara’s mind is blown, then we explore how the social (Maris) and sexual (Tara) instincts show up in our lives What a self-preservation dominant 8 may look like and behave How this type may be more angry and confrontational than the other instinctual variants of the 8 Famous 8w7 examples (Donald Trump / Gene Simmons) and famous 8w9 examples (Liam Neeson / Morgan Freeman / Susan Sarandon) What it may be like to work with a self-pres 8 How self-pres 8s might challenge people to be equals more than the other instinctual variants of the 8 The unhealthy and average range of a self-pres dominant 8 Also sorry 5s, the audio got cut in the beginning so a portion of your recap from the

Intro/Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--YiHE-06Rw (flowers in narnia) We kick off this episode with a discussion about speakers not getting paid at the International Enneagram Conference and then dive into what it's like to be a self-preservation 5. We talk about: Hermit life, being the most detached variant out of the three and how that may show up What it might feel like for a self-pres 5 to owe anything to somebody The self-pres 5 being “very good at boundaries” How the passion of avarice shows up in the 5 a 5s active thinking voice Themes of separation, detachment, non-attachment Self-pres 5s apparently being thinner out of all the variants - is that true? Email us and let us know enneagramforidiots@gmail.com What do you focus on the most out of these things? How do you find yourself focusing on these things: food, housing, health, physical comfort, money, your body? Also a couple of additional notes: A correction: Karen Horney influenced the coping style triads of the Enneagram

Intro / Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVLBaNQjQro Today we’re starting a brand new series on the INSTINCTS. Ahhhhh this is going to be SO EXCITING. In this episode, we kick it off with an introduction the instincts. We cover: what the instincts are (i.e. biological survival drives) language around describing instincts (variants and drives vs. using the word ‘subtype’) a breakdown of each instinct (self-preservation, sexual and social) why sexual does not mean one-on-one relationships what instinct stackings are or ‘sequences’ how being neurotic or ‘unhealthy’ shows up in instinct land 8s and mob bosses - is Tony Soprano a sexual 8? Resources and additional learning: Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery (there’s a small section on instincts at the end), The Shift Network audio download on instincts with Russ Hudson, https://beatricechestnut.com/blog/

Intro/Outro: J Roes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfWAxIk4xDw Today we’re wrapping up our compatibility series with the holy trinity - types 3 + 6 and types 6 + 9. Skip to 9:55 minutes to start the episode. In this episode we talk about: What it’s like to be with a 3, 6 and 9 We analyze a relationship thread on Reddit between a 6 + 9 that has gone from monogamous to polyamorous and are now sleeping in separate beds A Redditor says he’s heard 9s are cheaters Marissa shares intimacy tips from the internet Vulnerability in 3, 4 and 8 relationships Enneagram study on compatibility: https://www.9types.com/writeup/enneagram_relationships.php Resources for today’s episode: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships (most titles of our relationship series are based on Helen Palmer’s titles of the couplings), Enneagram Institute, REDDIT, Drdaviddaniels.com Enneagram conflict resolution styles: http://www.fitzel.ca/enneagram/conflict.html

Today we’re continuing our compatibility series with type 5 and 2 aka Albert Einstein and Dolly Parton. If you want to start where we actually talk about the Enneagram, fast forward to 19 minutes in. In this episode we talk about: What it’s like to live with 5s and 2s and be in relationships with them What attracts these two to each other Some people on the internet talking about their 5 and 2 relationship experience Challenging areas for the coupling and possible ways to catch each other in stress and work well together Avarice and rejection Note: we apologize if the mic sounds are imbalanced between us, we’re looking into updating our mics over the next month so that our voices sound more equal Enneagram study on compatibility: https://www.9types.com/writeup/enneagram_relationships.php Resources for today’s episode: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships (most titles of our relationship series are based on Helen Palmer’s titles of th

Intro/Outro: Bounce Back Remix by the Google Translate Lady (Background Hero) Today we’re continuing our compatibility series with type 8 and 7 aka Cardi B and Offset, Sharon and Ozzy, Olivia Pope and Fitz (fight us if you disagree on that typing). The couple that’s arguing, doing something amazing or never talking. In this episode we talk about: What it’s like to live with 7s and 8s What attracts 8s and 7s to each other How wings might influence a relationship What happens when they meet at 5 We ponder how and why this couple has sex The addictive aspects of 8s and 7s What to acknowledge about yourself in these relationships Another rant on the Kardashians for good measure The study we refer to in the episode (we don’t actually have this resource in past relationship show notes): https://www.9types.com/writeup/enneagram_relationships.php Resources for today’s episode: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships, Enneagram Institute,

If you’re joining us for the first time, this podcast is an explorative conversation about the Enneagram, pop culture examples and it is unstructured. Sometimes it includes conversations that aren’t about the Enneagram. We learn as you learn, we’re not presenting information as experts. We start this episode by going on a rant about Kourtney Kardashian and Poosh. Fast forward to the 20-minute mark if you’re looking to skip the intro. In this episode we talk about: How 9s (can when fixated) merge themselves with other people’s lives We explore how 9s and 4s work together The tragic mind cycle of a 4 Uncomfortable relationship conversations and Enneagram conflict styles Celebrity examples of 9 and 4’s (we couldn’t find any we made them up) We honestly ended this episode having more questions about how this couple works together because we don’t have a lot of examples, email us if you’re in a 9 + 4 couple and tell us your secrets, we'd love to know

Today we start a new series on relationships! We’re going to explore how some types work together in romantic relationships. Also as a side note, if two people are self-aware it doesn't matter WHAT their type is. Moving on... In this episode we talk about: What an 8 in love and a 2 in love look like What it’s like to live with an 8 and a 2 Maris’ shares her experience as an 8w9 married to a 2w3 and also shares a personal life experience she’s gone through recently A few reality TV examples of 8s + 2s together Resources: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships, The Enneagram Institute Relationship Type Combinations Today’s disclaimer: we are sorry if you hear chewing, we attempted to be sneaky and get away with a few treats on this episode and the mic caught some of it. Never AGAIN

In part 2 of mistyping we covered: Why watching and listening to people who are the same type as you can help you solidify your type Resources for this include Conscious TV Enneagram panel discussions and every reality show you can find really We read a bunch of emails from 9s who share their stories of mistyping and then finally discovering they are a 9 Tara shares some 4 experiences If anyone would like to do a putter off with Maris she’s available Marissa ruins all of our future Ariana Grande listening experiences What type is Wonder Woman?? Mistyping 9 vs. 4 Mistyping 6 vs 4 Mistyping 5 vs 1 Some notes on type 5 vs 6 and 5 vs 4   Resources Look up any number misidentification on the Enneagram Institute here: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/36-type-misidentifications The Enneagram of Passions and Virtues: https://www.amazon.ca/Enneagram-Passions-Virtues-Finding-Home/dp/1585427233