Dear Prudence | Advice On Relationships, Sex, Work, Family, And Life

Prudence is joined this week by Joey Garcia, the Sacramento News & Review's advice columnist, and on-air Relationship Expert for KTXL-40 TV. Garcia is also the founder of the Belize Writer's Conference where writers vacation with literary agents in her native Belize.Together they tackle letters about a woman wondering if she’s homophobic because she finds gay sex unattractive, how to handle an estranged father who now wants a “don’t discuss the past” relationship, should you tell your already fraught family that you had a daughter and put her up for adoption, what to consider when revealing to your adopted son that his birth mother was an addict, what to know about having a big old crush, even though you’ve been happily married for 7 years.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Garcia discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to take more space from her parents while she processes her abusive past in therapy. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by

Prudence is joined this week Kelly Anneken, an Oakland-based funny person and all-around swell gal who performs standup comedy. She’s best known as the host of The Handmaid’s Tale recap podcast Red All Over.Together they tackle letters about how to handle an opportunity to report a former teacher who sexually abused you decades ago, what to do when your partner’s sleep schedule is the opposite of yours, what to do when you’re turned off by your partner who promises sexy time that never happens, what to consider when the bride and groom don’t thank you for spending all year planning their wedding, how to decide if you should go to your father’s birthday when you know that an abusive aunt you haven’t seen in years will be there.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Anneken discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to decide if she should stay with her porn addicted boyfriend. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acas

Prudence is joined this week by author and activist, Aya de León, who teaches creative writing at UC Berkeley. She is the author of the Justice Hustlers feminist heist series, including Side Chick Nation, the first novel published about Hurricane Maria in Puerto Rico.Together they tackle letters about what to do when a hiring manager calls your husband about a job that you applied to, how to handle nosy coworkers who question when you leave work to care for your son, what to do when your fat shaming, homophobic colleagues chastise you for not wanting to socialize, what to do when you suspect your Jewish faith is keeping your girlfriend’s Mormon family at a distance, what to know about planning on permanently staying “in the closet”, should you say something to your friend who is spending a lot of money on a mutual friend that already has a boyfriend.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and de León discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to tell her mother that she’s moving to her country of origin, despite

Prudence is joined this week by Chrissy Macken, who runs a career coaching consultancy in Washington, DC with a focus on helping professionals break free from toxic work environments.Together they dig into letters about how to move past the embarrassment of your drunken behavior on your daughter’s wedding day, how to set boundaries with a business partner you also have a searing crush on, what to do about coworkers who constantly interrupt your private headphone time, how to get out of carpooling with a coworker who dumps her woes on you every morning, what actions to take when you discover coworkers making fun of your disability in social media. Also, Prudie plays a voicemail from a listener who feels her friend “over apologizes” in most situations. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Macken discuss a letter writer who’s disappointed that her friends aren’t celebrating her home purchase in the same way she celebrated their major life events. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudenc

Prudence is joined this week by Marianne R. Williams, the Librarian-in-Residence and Visiting Assistant Professor at the University of Arkansas.Together they tackle letters about what to do when your absentee father wants back into your life, how to handle a friend who often slips into racist accents, what to consider when your husband admits he’s a sex addict, what to consider when your cancer stricken boyfriend wants to break up, what to do when you find your husband’s secret stash of sexy barbie dolls, how to decide whether to reveal a devastating truth to breakup the marriage of a woman responsible for breaking up your relationship. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Williams discuss a letter writer who’s mother’s connection to estranged family members on social media is causing a bigger family rift. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Tonya Mosley is the host of KQED's (NPR's San Francisco station) new podcast Truth Be Told, an advice show by and for people of color. Tonya also serves as KQED's Silicon Valley Bureau Chief. Together they tackle letters about how to handle regret over getting a step sister in trouble when you were a teen, should you still see your step kids after leaving your wife who cheated on you, how to handle a boyfriend who insists you can’t be friends with former lovers, how to know if it’s okay to ask someone how to be an ally and not annoy them, what to do when a colleague is stealing cupcakes you bought for your own team, how to handle anger towards a sister who bought a puppy from a breeder instead of adopting a rescue, what actions to take when you’re a POC confronted with the possibility of having to attend your husband’s racist family reunion.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Mosley discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to handle a husband who gets offended when she d

Prudence is joined this week by Corinne Segal, a senior editor at Literary Hub. Segal lives in Brooklyn with a preponderance of plants, stacks of poetry books, and an extremely loyal cat named Dill.Together they dig into letters about what to do when you notice men gawking at your daughter’s chest, what actions to take when your friends find a good friend of yours extremely off-putting, what to do when you notice your birth daughter may be gay, but she’s being raised by conservative parents, how to support a loved one with depression, even when they’re difficult to be around, what to do when your husband reneges on his promise to allow you a trial of a creative career.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Segal discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to set boundaries with his family who is not accepting of his trans girlfriend. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Julian K. Jarboe, a writer and sound designer from Massachusetts. Their debut collection, "Everyone on the Moon is Essential Personnel", is forthcoming next spring. They can be found on Twitter @JulianKJarboe.Together they tackle letters about what to do when you’re suddenly responsible for a young niece and nephew that are practically strangers, should you propose to your boyfriend while also living in an intensely traumatic environment, how to handle a husband who believes masturbation is an act akin to infidelity, what actions to take when you discover the mom at your kid’s playdate house is always screaming at her own kids, what to know if you have suicidal feelings that you don’t want to share with your therapist, what to do when you can’t yet legally change your name, and you get upset when people use it. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Jarboe discuss a letter writer who’s wondering what to do when, as an executor of their will, you discover your relative had an e

Prudence is joined this week by Laneia Jones, the executive editor of Autostraddle dot com, an independently-run online community for queer women and nonbinary people. Together they tackle letters about what to do with a mother-in-law who demands that you disinvite her gay daughter to your wedding, how to handle racist neighbors who might take issue with your house-sitting guests, should you tell your husband that you can’t take anymore unplanned house guests, how to explain to dates that your cousin is raising your child with your ex-girlfriend, what actions to take when you accidentally lose your paycheck, how to decide if you should accept a dream job, even though it may not pay enough.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Jones discuss a letter writer who’s wondering if she should end a friendship with a couple who revealed interest in exploring a polyamorous relationship.  Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See ac

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Schneider, a registered nurse living in the Bay Area. Her go-fish game is on point. Together they tackle letters about what to do when your estranged mother sends an unexpected and inappropriate gift, how to handle a mom who keeps raining on your wedding parade, how to deal with a mom who goes out of her way to misgender you, what actions to take when your ex husband uses the kids to throw a wrench into your dating life, how to handle your conflicted feelings about a boyfriend who cheated on you and then took his own life, what to do when your friend’s home is in a state of squalor. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Schneider discuss a letter writer who’s wondering if she should tell her fiance that his best man confessed his love for her, and another letter writer who can no longer tolerate her sister-in-law’s constant commentary about her spending habits. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Ho

Prudence is joined this week by Harron Walker, a staff writer at Out magazine, whose work has appeared on Jezebel, BuzzFeed, Vulture, Vice, and Them. Together they tackle letters about how to create a safe space for your child who is showing signs of being transgender, should you worry that your girlfriend has been in therapy for 9 years, what to do when you find out your twin sister has been trash talking about you to anyone who will listen, what actions to take when your boyfriend accidentally sends you his amateur porno of him with another woman, what to do when your “split all costs” plan with your girlfriend isn’t really happening. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Walker discuss a letter writer who is wondering if she should let her LGBTQ+ clients know that she’s queer, even though she’s married to a straight cis man. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Prudence is joined this week by Aymann Ismail, an award-winning podcast host, video editor, photographer, and writer at Slate whose work focuses on identity and religion. He currently hosts Man Up, an interview podcast about men and relationships, family, race, and sex. Together they dig into letters about how to handle a boyfriend who’s frustrated because you travel for work half the year, what to do when a coworker mentions he’s a survivalist with a stockpile of guns at home, what actions to take when your child’s playdate is at the home of a racist, should you expose your bosses affair to make your own work life easier, what to do with displayed photos of your wife of 40 years now that you are widowed and dating, what to consider when your partner’s illness keeps you from physically connecting.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Ismail discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to handle a dad who refuses to accommodate your mom’s needs while she’s fighting cancer. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.

Prudence is joined this week by essayist Jackie Hedeman, whose nonfiction has appeared in The Best American Travel Writing 2017, Entropy, Autostraddle, and elsewhere. Together they tackle letters about a what to do when you have a former patient who keeps demanding you take them back, how to handle a housemate who has habit of oversharing when he drinks, how to decide to cut off your toxic parents from seeing their grandchildren, what to do when you want your polyamorous relationship to revert back to a monogamous one, how to protect your daughter when your sister is marrying a registered sex offender, what to consider when your addict lover is requesting that you refrain from substances when you don’t have a problem.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Hedeman discuss a letter writer who can’t stand visiting her brother’s home because his kids urinate everywhere and make a mess. Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Phil Surkis Hosted on Acast. See

This week finds Dear Prudence live on stage at The Museum of Pop Culture in Seattle, Washington. Recorded on March 20th, 2019, Prudie was joined onstage by author and assistant professor of English at UC Berkeley, Grace Lavery. Together they dig into letters about what to do when you desire a life that’s more than caring for your mother in law, how to handle a friend whose belief that you broke her car is threatening your social standing, what to do when your sister thinks she’s a genius and hates you because you don’t believe her, how to deal with family misgendering your best friend at your wedding, how to decide whether you should take in a friend with a debilitating disease, what to do when your parents decide to swap genders.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Grace discuss a letter writer who found the love of her life, but he’s more focused on finishing his Ph.D, as well as questions from the audience! Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Ph

This week finds Dear Prudence live on stage at The Bell House in Brooklyn. Recorded on March 13th, 2019, Prudie was joined onstage by Jezebel writer, Jasmine Sanders.Together they dig into letters about what to do when the kids you nanny are beyond out of control, how to handle a friend who dumps on you, but never listens to your problems, what to do with a fiancé who’s forgetfulness of basic things makes you worry about your safety, what actions to take when you suspect you’ve been violated under anesthesia during a medical procedure, what to do when cutting ties from an abusive uncle also leaves you estranged from other family that you miss, how to decide if your surreptitious workplace recordings should be used for good, evil, or left unheard.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Jasmine discuss a letter whose recovery from an eating disorder is hampered by a mother who constantly admonishes her appearance.  Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate.com/PrudiePod.Email: prudencepodcast@gmail.comProduction by Ph

This week finds Dear Prudence live on stage at The Hamilton in Washington DC. Recorded on March 12th, 2019, Prudie was joined onstage by the host of NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour, Linda Holmes.Together they tackle letters about how to decide if you should cut ties with a sister who violated your trust, how to handle jealousy when your wife easily get gigs that you’ve struggled your whole life to get, what actions to take with a creepy and inappropriate father-in-law, how to help your daughter’s transitioning friend who was shut out by his own family, what to do when your husband’s antidepressants take away his sex drive, what to do when your friend’s methods for planning your vacation rubs you wrong way, what to consider when you have a family member who refused to vaccinate her child. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Linda discuss a letter writer who is dreading being part of a wedding where her fellow bridesmaids will make fun of her for being single. Also, questions from the live audience! Not yet a

This week finds Dear Prudence live on stage at the Brava Theater Center in San Francisco. Recorded on March 7th, 2019, Prudie was joined onstage by New York Times bestselling author Jasmine Guillory. Jasmine’s books include The Wedding Date, The Proposal, and the forthcoming The Wedding Party. Together they dig into letters about how to handle your bestie’s new friends that leave you feeling alienated, should you date your neighbor, even though it might be confusing for your children, what to do when your long time friend is a cheater and it’s awkward to face his girlfriend, what actions to take when your expensive grad school degree hasn’t yielded any job prospects, what to do when two crucial members of your wedding party are going through an ugly divorce, how to handle a husband who wants to maintain a relationship with his white supremacist  brother, should you take a chance and see your estranged parents who are now reaching out after years of conflict?Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Jasmine disc

This week finds Dear Prudence live on stage at The Soiled Dove Underground in Denver Colorado. Recorded on March 6th, 2019, Prudie was joined by writer Nicole Cliffe, who currently runs Slate’s Care and Feeding advice column, and was Daniel Ortberg’s former partner at The Toast.Together they dig into letters about what to do when you feel disconnected from your life that actually looks pretty good, how to handle a boyfriend who doesn’t want to commit to being called a “boyfriend”, what to do when your partner’s ex uses their dog as an excuse to stay connected, what actions to take when your husband can’t move past your infidelity from years ago, how to introduce your trans boyfriend to your not so accepting parents, how to deal with a husband who has turned to porn since you giving birth, how to handle your partner’s mom who keeps her distance because you’re “living in sin”.  Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Nicole discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to decide if she has a future dating a vacc

Prudence is joined this week by writer Helen Rosner. She is the food correspondent for The New Yorker, and a former editor at places like Eater, Saveur, and New York Magazine.Together they tackle letters about what to do when a lonely neighbor treats you  as if you were her grandchild, what to do when a member of your fine dining club can no longer afford to pay, but insists on coming anyway, how to share your secret financial struggles with your husband, what actions to take when your mother-in-law fat shames you after your pregnancy. Prudie and Helen also respond to a voicemail from a woman who discovered a man on her disability focused message board who may be posing to get attention from women. Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Helen discuss a letter writer who has conflicting feelings about her high school bully who recently committed suicide, and another letter from a woman who wants to reconnect with her ex through social media, but is being thwarted by her ex’s partner. Not yet a member? Sign up

Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Shourd, a multi-media journalist based in Oakland, California. Her work combines fiction with rigorous journalism to elevate marginalized voices. She’s now working collaboratively on a graphic novel as a JSK Fellow at Stanford. Together they tackle letters about what to do when you find yourself with diminishing social invitations because of your sickliness, how to handle your husband who wants to reconnect with his friend who was convicted of possession of child pornography, how to put the brakes on a new overbearing friendship without offending them, what to consider when the love of your life offers you good (not great) sex, how to handle a soon to be sister-in-law who demands that you remove pictures of your brother’s deceased first wife from your home.Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Sarah discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to stop her distant family members from using her beach house without causing a family rift.  Not yet a member? Sign up at Slate