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People tend to say that "to remember is to live", it is certainly very nice to think about those pleasant situations that we lived in our childhood or a few years ago, and it's very common to sit with our friends and family to relive those precious moments. It is normal that we turn to the past to remember who we are and where we came from, however, thinking way too much about the past can prevent us from living in the present. One of the factors to which we must pay attention is when our thinking resorts to the use of phrases such as "I should have done ...".  To be able to live in the present we must know that not only does the past affect us, the future also pressures us to live at a different pace, our minds can go to thoughts such as "I have to pay the bills for next month", "What will my boss think of the project that I will present to him?", These thoughts add additional pressure to us that is sometimes not necessary and end up leading us to erroneous conclusions such as "I will be happy when I manage

Most people have suffered a romantic breakup at least once in their life, a part of these people can quickly recover from that situation, start another relationship again and do much better, but there is another part that finds it difficult to meet new people and get into a romantic relationship after suffering a heartbreak. This happens because they are afraid of being hurt or betrayed again, and it is normal to feel fear since they have associated that falling in love can lead to suffering, and feeling fear makes our body stay alert to any activity that may unbalance our tranquility. To overcome this and be able to allow yourself to build a new relationship, it is important to avoid regretting what happened and to pause and reflect on the extent to which we have been responsible for that breakup and in what we have contributed, even if it may sound very harsh. All this to improve the necessary aspects and thus obtain better results. If we do not do the personal work, we would fall into immature cycles in th

Frequently we hear the phrase "listen to your intuition" but... do we really know the meaning of this word? Intuition refers to that ability with which we can reach correct conclusions from little information in a short time. They are those decisions that we take with the heart, not with judgment, that is why we also call it "hunch". We could be applying our intuition in daily situations, and sometimes we do it unconsciously since intuition is based on previous knowledge that we obtained during different experiences lived, and our brain stores them to use it as future problem-solving skills. An example of this could be the day-to-day tasks of a mechanic, every time they check a vehicle they know what could be failing and discover solutions, storing that knowledge in their memory; after a few months, another vehicle may come with a similar breakdown and only by hearing the sounds the vehicle makes they take risks giving a diagnosis and a possible solution because their intuition tells them that the past case c

In our families, especially in Latino families, there is an almost imperceptible factor, since it is not a widely spoken concept, and it is emotional neglect during childhood, this is nothing more than the wrong way to proceed with emotional patterns from parents to children, where the young ones may begin to experience psychological and emotional damage in their present and that may leave consequences for their future. Unlike violence and abuse, which are directed in a greater proportion to the physical part, emotional neglect attacks the emotional and psychological side of the kid, this refers to that lack of connection between the father/mother towards the needs of the child, it is oriented in many cases towards omission and for this reason, sometimes it becomes imperceptible even for the same victim already in adulthood to identify if they suffered it. A very clear example of this concept is the differentiation of roles between the genders of the girl and the boy, and it can happen when they say to the ma

Grief and sorrow are sadly a part of life, sometimes we might be prepared for it, and sometimes we won't. How can we deal with these hard feelings while still moving forward? Listening to your grief just like you listen to the rest of your emotions is a great start for the process of getting better at managing this hard feeling, letting it express itself and letting it go out of your body is the healthiest way of doing it.  Many people when dealing with grief will want to try to lock it away on the deepest parts of themselves, but this action could actually make the emotional pain worst. Our emotions are there for a reason, and we must listen to them to maintain our emotional health at a peaking point. In this episode, Dr. Carmen talks with Dr. Liz Caine, who will tell us a bit about how we can manage our grief, especially in times like these when our emotions are heightened.   Who’s our guest?Dr. Liz A. Caine (she/her) is a licensed psychologist in Northern California. In her psychotherapeutic work, she is d

Choosing a good partner has always been difficult for most people, but why? To choose a good, compatible partner it's necessary to first know yourself, your likes, dislikes, and the goals that you want to reach in life. Keep in mind that this person that is going to come into your life will also have their own likes, hobbies, and goals. Are you willing to live with someone who smokes? Or someone who drinks? This is where filtering comes in, you must prepare a list of activities or behaviors that make you uncomfortable and start to separate the people that you meet by using the said list. It may sound quite aggressive to filter people this way, but if you think about it, the process of finding someone to spend the rest of your life with is a serious one, and the results we are aiming for is to find the best possible partner; one that can be as reliable and compassionate as possible. At times, the path of looking for a partner can be difficult and full of insecurities, but if you keep a positive attitude it can

How are you keeping the romance alive while staying at home? The pandemic has made lots of things difficult, and one of those things is keeping a romantic relationship alive. When this situation started and everyone was excited to spend a few days inside their homes many couples were thrilled to have some time to themselves to reconnect and try new hobbies together, but now, as the situation has extended, and we've been at home for such a long time, things are starting to get boring and for some, difficult even. But how can you keep that relationship up and running? This is the time to grow and overcome difficulties together, to show compassion and lovingly express your support to your partner when the situation gets too overwhelming, it is the time to know exactly when to be there for them and when you both should have some time for yourselves. In this special episode, Dr. Carmen, and her husband Vince, talk about the small things and actions that can save your relationship when you need it the most, they ta

Going through the experience of a divorce without a doubt is a situation that no one wants to go through in their life regardless of the terms in which the relationship has ended. A divorce can be by mutual agreement or not, and it can even come as a surprise for one of the parties. The breakdown of a marriage can become a difficult situation to face and accept due to many factors, one of these factors and perhaps the one with the greatest weight that people expose is the situation with their children, since it affects the family environment and in some cases, it can start a legal dispute for custody of minors. Others may be emotional, social, and economic stability with the division of material goods.Breaking a relationship that was expected to last forever is a painful experience where both parties go through a complex grieving process and many times it is necessary to go to therapy to overcome it. When going through this process, it is beneficial to keep in mind several points so that it does not become so

We have recently gone through many changes at a global level and with those outside changes, we also did the same inside; with the new rhythm of life that we have been adapting, we have acquired endless skills, knowledge, and habits, we have even set our imagination to fly with creativity or we have taken an activity such as a sport or practices such as yoga and meditation.If you are one of those who have entered the world of meditation, you may have realized that it is an activity that reduces stress and increases the general well-being of our lives. Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years by different cultures, for different spiritual, religious, and healing purposes. If you are a beginner in this practice and you feel a little lost about the space that you should practice in or how to do the meditation, or if, on the contrary, you have not started because you think that you do not have space or the resources indicated to start, do not worry! In this episode, Dr. Carmen Román will give you a br

Throughout the years, eating disorders have been portrayed in media as if it's only a problem that affects heterosexual, young, white females, but in reality, eating disorders have no boundaries and can affect people from any ethnicity, culture, or gender. And even when we don't want to accept it, we have more cases of eating disorders in our communities of color than we think. Eating disorders are viewed and treated differently depending on the culture where the affected one comes from; in the case of communities of color, we have a very deep connection with food, sometimes even turning it into a love language. This connection makes it difficult sometimes for the affected ones to get the correct treatment and support from their loved ones. Knowing this, How can we help ourselves or our loved ones who might be struggling with body image or eating disorders? In this episode, Dr. Carmen Román interviews Dr. Ghynecee Temple, who will tell us in a very insightful way, why the cases of eating disorders in people o

The fact that a person has emotional dependencies is a very detrimental factor for oneself since well-being, tranquility and happiness cease to depend on them, becoming dependent on another person, thus, placing an obstacle when expressing their feelings or wishes. Emotional dependence is what happens when a person fosters a disproportionate affective bond that ends in addition to the other person, be it their partner, a relative, or even a friend. In some cases it is more difficult to get out of this situation since this dependence can be fed by the other person, making it a cycle. We always hear that phrase "He's my better half", claiming that one half is nothing without the other when the reality is not like that. Although it is true, in romantic relationships one person comes to complement the other; there should always be a balance and this does not mean that all the burden should fall on one of the two, each person has endless abilities, skills, knowledge, and even talents where they can surely fend for

It is normal for life to have its ups and downs. As human beings, we face a series of tests and obstacles every day that we must overcome and learn from them, sometimes perhaps we do not get out of a situation so gracefully and we tend to feel crestfallen or defeated, however, in these moments we must bring out the best in ourselves and stand up stronger than before in order to overcome these obstacles. This capacity that each person has through their abilities, skills, intelligence, and perseverance is called personal growth. In these times that we are living, the term self-growth is heard much more frequently, but do we know what it is about? It is simply the evolution and the way in which a person is transformed through the new knowledge they acquire, skills, tools, ways of thinking, and habits, to put it simply, everything positive that drives their personal growth and that will allow them to achieve goals with all the potential acquired. Each person is valuable with their virtues and defects, surely in y

People often associate curiosity as an undesirable trait, and when someone curious approaches us, we tend to avoid them. But, is curiosity really a defect or a virtue? Being curious means having the desire to explore and learn more about what surrounds us or to explore a specific topic; curiosity forms an important role in the learning period of an individual, whether, from childhood or adulthood, curiosity apart from being healthy, induces us to learn and to acquire knowledge that can be useful for our life. But when does it stop being good and becomes a defect? It occurs when we use curiosity to inquire about things that do not add to us or that can lead us to not so positive consequences. Being curious can be the spark of many good things since it generates positive ambitions, helps develop creativity, gives us multiple possibilities of solving a problem, protects our brain, increases happiness, accelerates learning, and motivates us to explore. If you want to know more about this topic and how you can dev

When is a good time to talk to your children about sex? And what is the correct way to do it? Talking to children about topics such as sexuality and body development can be difficult and sometimes, depending on the culture, it can even be a taboo conversation. But, as difficult or uncomfortable as it may be, these conversations are vital to our children's development and maturity. Many parents try to avoid and delay this talk for as long as possible, however, children will come across these topics in conversations with their friends or on television, and there is a possibility that they will not turn directly to you to find the right answers to the questions that arise in their heads. This is why it is important that, as parents, we learn the correct way to address these hard topics with our children when it's needed, ensuring that the information they receive is correct. In this episode, Dr. Carmen interviews Holly Osment, LMFT. Who will tell us how and when parents should start talking about sexuality and i

Have you ever been asked to do something you don't want to, and yet you have accepted? Saying "No" to situations where you do not want to participate or don't want to do is not a crime, sometimes it's even a must for your health to refuse certain situations like helping and serving everyone but yourself. This simple word can help you to maintain control of your life and give you the opportunity to live a more relaxed life. In this episode, Dr. Carmen Roman shares with us why forgetting about the guilt of denying taking part in some situations is good for us, teaching us different solutions that will help you say "No" just when you need it without doubting yourself. Dr. Carmen Roman is a dedicated clinical psychologist who helps parents, families, and community leaders who have suffered from trauma, anxiety, or stress to managing their emotions, guiding them to a harmonious life. What will you learn in this episode? How to set healthy limits? People with confusing limits and their features. Examples and attit

Have you ever had to force yourself to go to sleep at night? Do you wake up in the middle of the night and find yourself lying in bed for hours and hours? Maybe you just couldn’t avoid bringing up a difficult conversation with your partner at bedtime? Why not use naps, meals, caffeine intake, and even spiritual practices to help you sleep better? People who usually suffer from insomnia tend to have created poor sleep habits due to depression, anxiety, lack of activity, or certain medications. This sleep disorder is most common in adults and thanks to different studies conducted in different countries around the world, we have found that 30% of the population suffers from it. But how can we treat it? In this episode, Dr. Carmen Roman talks about all these things and more. Offering us a simple definition of insomnia, and shares some helpful ideas for optimal sleep hygiene. If you’re struggling with getting to sleep at night or staying asleep, you’ll find better ways to get rest that don’t involve medicine or al

Fear is an emotion that every human being has felt. Physiological and normal reactions of fear include increased heartbeat, sweaty hands, greater than normal energy load, insomnia, etc. In this episode, Dr. Carmen Roman helps us to understand our fears at a deeper level so we can learn from them and, of course, face them with greater success. In this episode you will learn: Common Reactions to fear. Examples of what is a normal fear vs clinical fear When and how your fear turns into a phobia or trauma Some tips about how to face our fears The importance of seeking help that matches our needs Some reflections about preventing unnecessary fears you may develop Join the Emotional Freedom Challenge!: https://emotionsinharmony.org/challenge/   Are you ready to enhance your overall life? Learn how to Negotiate Anything! https://emotionsinharmony.org/negotiate/ Enroll today and claim a 10% discount and a free 30 minutes psychoeducation with me!   Donate here: https://www.paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/3403609

Many people suffer from insomnia and/or difficulty sleeping, even more so when we can be subjected to stress, anxiety, or simply due to bad sleeping habits such as looking at the phone when we are already in bed or watching television until late at night. But surely at some point, we have all fallen asleep listening to some music in the background or we have witnessed how when humming a song to a child, they fall asleep almost immediately and this is due to the peace that our body perceives when it hears a melody. Music has a therapeutic effect since it is capable of releasing chemicals in our brain that allow us to feel relaxed and happy. When we listen to music the nervous system is cleansed and the body relaxes, making us feel freer, for this reason, some disciplines are accompanied by music to help the body enter a state of calm, such as yoga and meditations, or even when we go to a gym we listen to more animated music so that our body understands in some way that it is time to activate and emit the energ

The feeling of insecurity is usually a mix of uneasiness, fear, and nervousness that are triggered by multiple situations or thoughts that make us feel vulnerable or inferior to others.  For example, the feeling of insecurity can attack us when we think our beauty, intelligence, or situation in life is way worst than our friend's. Insecurity can be normal in small doses, however, when it persists for a long period of time and it interrupts your daily activities and thoughts, it is time to seek help. Getting rid of this excessive insecurity will help you achieve things that you surely have always wanted to do, without the burden of thinking that your knowledge, beauty, or skills are not enough. In this episode, Dr. Carmen interviews Ali Psiuk, LMFT, who will tell us where the feeling of insecurity comes from, how can we overpower it, and when we should seek help. Ali Psiuk LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who supports individuals and partners to improve the quality of their relationships and th

Are you holding onto thoughts and past memories that are hurting you? The more you keep reliving those bad memories in your head and thinking about all the stuff you could have done, the more your mental health will suffer and the more difficult your daily life with turn. But how can we let go of those memories and thoughts? In this episode, Dr. Carmen will help you understand how to let go of past experiences that you may carry with you. You will learn what it means to let go, how to recognize when you are not letting go, what are the consequences of not letting go, and how to help yourself let go. There is no need to carry difficult or negative past experiences or feelings constantly when you learn how to let go. You will find that by letting go you can move on and lay a healthy, wiser foundation in your life.   What will you learn in this episode: What is letting go What is not letting go Signs you are not letting go Consequences of not letting go Emotional suffering that is different from common pain Phy