Nourishing The Mother

Your nervous system feels frayed, and you feel like you just can’t take it anymore…every day is like a firing of that trigger, and there’s no break and no light at the end of the tunnel…listen to this!We’ll take you through three easy, tangible steps so you can change your story, so you can change your life. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ What does it mean to be the ‘too good’ child?  ⁃ Dispersing the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ traits across a family dynamic ⁃ As parents, we can further polarise, and amplify traits and behaviours in our children ⁃ The way children end up playing the role that we cast them in  ⁃ Owning the trait so you stop rallying against them  ⁃ Making room in your life for new things that are important to you ⁃ The choice point we have around how we can respond  ⁃ Whether we see our child as a problem, or we see this as a deeper initiation into greater skills and identity  ⁃ Trusting your child’s strength more than their fragility ⁃ Witnessing an emotion without making it mean anything ⁃ Getting skil

You know you’re on the struggle bus when you feel like a passenger to your life, you can’t see a way out, and you’re exhausted. Now it’s time to gently give yourself permission to take a step off. In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Three main areas of overwhelm; family finances, parenting and mental load inequality in relationships  ⁃ Flipping your debt into service ⁃ Having a bigger plan versus immediate spinning your wheels  ⁃ Getting immediate inspiration and meaning by seeing a long term plan that you’re inspired by  ⁃ Creating more agency with your time ⁃ Recognising what comes up for you  ⁃ Asking ‘how’ instead of stopping at ‘I can’t’  ⁃ Meeting your resource needs so you can manage your parenting needs  ⁃ Changing what you see so you feel differently ⁃ A review process for your mental load  ⁃ Sharing and delegating mental load so your lifestyle is more sustainableTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parentin

We give up pieces of ourselves for other’s comfort and for our sense of belonging. What happens when you realise your way of belonging to the world is now keeping you small? How do we drop the addiction to being liked so we’re fully free to live our authentic selves.In this episode we discuss:Holding yourself without persona, perfection, protection or projectionConsciously stepping forwards into your ever-evolving most-authentic selfMoving beyond the peacemaker and the doormatembracing your whole self including your shadowReleasing your children so they have full permission to follow their inner compassStop diluting yourself and dimming your light so you’re palatable for othersUntangling from past fears so they no longer run your futureRecognising there’s a part of you that benefits from trying to contort yourself for the appetite of othersKnowing that in order to be seen and celebrated in the way that you want to, you have to be willing to be challengingThe value holding yourself in the discomfort of being d

Rather than empty platitudes we ground you in three easy steps on how to stop ‘I’m not enough’ in its tracks.In this episode we discuss:Remembering what it feels like when you’re connected to *you* so you can always return thereMoving beyond a lack mindset that keeps you stuckSinking into the belief that challenge isn’t without fruitSeeing that comparison creates infatuationTaking the thing that you’re comparing yourself to off a pedestalDialling down the noise so that the things that *are* for you can find youCleaning up and curating what you’re consumingThe truth of who you are creates ripples in the world far greater than any fantasy about who you think you should beTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Your body takes the shape of what reality you’re believing, so the question is, what is the story you’re telling yourself in any given moment? In this episode we centre what you can do when you have what you perceive is a ‘toxic mother’, and how to avoid to avoid making your imprint your parenting.In this episode we discuss:The destabilising effect of trauma in the nervous systemWhat it takes to lead yourself wellThe deeply hidden aspect of mothering yourselfSinking into the dynamic and knowing what you’re getting from itWhy removing ‘toxic people’ can limit your child’s growthGiving your kids agency and tools in tough momentsCreating your own ‘peace plan’Loving yourself and them deeply through the processTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We’re all about creating permission on how we can be more ‘us’ alongside seeing, honouring and allowing our whole child in front of us. In this episode we take you through the four steps to really giving yourself permission to be fully lit and inspired as you mother.In this episode we discuss:What is your lineage and your lens?Response-ability is shaped by where you come fromFeeling swallowed by the weight of perfectionPerfection is future-focussedKnowing the stories you return to, and bringing awareness, so you don’t embody the shadow you’re running formNoticing what’s in competition and bringing connectionNoticing beliefs that keep you smallAuthentic and inspired you follows the true expression of you, so connection is the only possibilityAllowing shift and changeTrusting your child’s strength and capability more than your anxiety-driven, controlling parenting measuresSelf-righteousness will happen, so bring humility when you come full circleWhat we can’t love holds us back, so love who you are in every evo

In this episode we give you the three-step how-to that gives you spaciousness in motherhood that doesn’t feel like you’re gripping, controlling and hanging on. Let’s create some ease, flow, fulfilment and feel-good vibes!In this episode we discuss:Offering yourself the same love and compassion that you offer your childrenStop creating resentment cyclesMoving your motherhood beyond servitudeLeaning into your own boundariesStretching more of who you are and what you can doKnowing how to value your own needs and stop apologisingRemoving guilt and shame so you can be filled by what you receiveDon’t ignore what lights you upStop doing ‘later’ on your your dreams and desires‘Capacity’ is not a thingWhen you’re wobbly, being pulled into your bigger whyYour life is in continuous conversation with youInspiration creates capacityKnow where you’re headed, vision board your perfectionTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious par

The tips you need to know to create a family holiday that feels like connection and joy, and leaves you feeling replenished. Instead of assuming you’ll have a great time, because it looks the Instagram picture, but it feels like resentment and overwhelm. In this episode we discuss:- Becoming attached to the experience your child has- The expectation on everyone to have a good time because you’ve spent money- Measuring yourself against others’ experiences and ending up in shame and guilt - Using comparison to fuel us, but recognising when it’s collapsing us- Creating a ‘heads up’ to guide your family and balance their nervous systems - Giving details that help our kids feel safe - Setting our kids up to adjust and flow with change - Getting your kids on board, rather than fighting you - Creating more ease as a parent - When you hide the challenge, you intensify the problem - Co-regulation tools to use with your child - Clearly defining parent roles and expectations - Recognising the needs and meeting them - Re

This time of year brings with it a looming mental load of pressure and responsibility, particularly on mums. So we’d like to help you make going back to school as easy and effortless as possible. In this episode we discuss: - Getting the gear sorted so there’s no last minute angst- Reducing nervous system stress-load- Relieving mental load - Always asking “How could this be more easeful?”- Setting yourself up to have night time spaciousness - Keeping lunchboxes easy - Leaving room for how you do things to be different - Changing how you do things so you don’t crowd out your creativity - Easy meal-prep - Giving yourself permission before you uplevel- Figuring out what it looks and feels like to walk as this woman in 2023 before you make plans - Your stuckness can leave you feeling threatened- How can I optimise my life with self-reflection and greater ease?To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspir

This time of year, the headlines are fever-pitch on all the ways you can improve yourself. What if you just chose to exit that system and hustle culture and said ‘F*ck that! I’m going to go my own way’In this episode we discuss:- There’s no wagon to fall off if you don’t create a wagon- Cultivating deep appreciation for yourself, versus running shame and guilt- Remembering you are enough, always- Remembering ‘they’ are enough; watch where you’re projecting onto your partner- You are everything you need, for everything you want- Be here, now. It’s on the way, not in the way- It’s okay to crumble- The part of us that fights ourselves on rest, and naps- The spiritual practice of leaning back vs hustle culture- Visions, not goals- Don’t attach your self-worth to goals- It’s okay to change- Shifting expectations to allow for the wobble of identity shiftTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring moth

To set your 2023 year up right, and use your manifesting magic, let’s co-create with potency and clear direction. Grab your pen and paper, follow along and let’s get you set up.In this episode we discuss:Reconciling your 2022 to glean the wisdomRating each area of life on a ‘health’ scaleReviewing each area for fulfilment or dissatisfactionBeing ruthless in your review of what you are spending your time doing, vs can you drop it or delegate itTargeting where you want to consciously improve your lifeBeing clear on what you’re manifestingClearly mapping where you’re heading and how you’re getting thereAppreciating yourself and your lifeTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

How do you know when motherhood has become a little toxic, enmeshed and smothering, and is now preventing yours and your child’s future growth? It begins with breaking the fantasy of the fully supportive mother and pulling out of the pit the imperfect, challenging mother. The challenging mother inoculates your child from life-long subordination - so how about we love her?The lean-back skillset is a tangible you can follow along to, and break the shackles of your own subordination to the perfect mother.In this episode we discuss:How you can do the lean-back skillsetSeeing your patterns that create smotheringLosing your own identity in your children and how that robs them of individuationRepulsion as a vehicle to coming back into connection with our true selvesLetting go of the perfect mother who always walks in connection and celebration of her childHow shaky your worth is when it’s wrapped up in how you perform as a motherCreating narratives for yourself outside of the ‘Hallmark’ motherReconciling your own fa

One of the biggest fizzers of passion and attraction in long term relationship is the dying of flirtation and play, and the beige, insidious sense of apathy that ‘this is how it is now’. So let’s breathe back life into our love, romance and connection.In this episode we discuss:Quit hustling for who has it worseStop making it all about youThe feminine archetype as the ferocious destroyer and the seductive creatorHow to see the sexy kitten, instead of the volcanoHow to play and flirt your way through resentment into connectionHow to be an invitation for your partner to step towardsShowing your delight and attraction for your partnerKeeping yourself and your relationship in a non-sex simmerTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

Ever feel like you’re the peace-keeper at Christmas? Or just ‘going through the motions’ but it doesn’t feel right? In this episode we give you your power back so you can move beyond the ‘good descendent’ and into the ancestor your children need. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ ‘Keeping the peace’ assumes a win:lose ⁃ Minimising your own needs and desires in service to someone outside of you ⁃ Peacekeeping is an act of performance rather than authenticity ⁃ ‘Hot’ authenticity vs grounded authenticity ⁃ Asking for what you really want ⁃ Having hard conversations  ⁃ Artfully creating a win:win where everyone’s needs are met  ⁃ Letting your inner child know they’re still loveable when you choose something different to your family to originTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

We centre Julie’s honest and open experience post-surgery but please insert ‘hysterectomy’ or ‘big life change’ that transforms your identity. In this podcast we discuss the two areas of any big life change - what you can prepare for, and what you’ll be asked to surrender to. In this episode we discuss: ⁃ rites of passage in women’s lives ⁃ active health care ⁃ advocating for yourself and your health and healing journey  ⁃ Slowing down enough to feel ⁃ Setting yourself up for a great recovery  ⁃ Meeting yourself emotionally where you’re at, at every stage ⁃ Calling in and creating a support network that holds you ⁃ Recognising control can often be a wounded childhood pattern for survival ⁃ Knowing that any identity shift will ask you to surrender, and you can either move with that, or struggle against it.  ⁃ Allowing space for the messy human  ⁃ Meeting yourself in fear and shock ⁃ Fortifying your mental strength ⁃ Creating spaciousness by being able to meet each moment  ⁃ Trusting the universe to provide wha

Your Christmas experience can be defined by what you filter, plug into and consume - so let’s be conscious about what you’re reaffirming. In this podcast we dissect what has you feeling constricted vs heart-aligned in the festive season, and how to compassionately distill down who is in the driver’s seat of your life.In this episode we discuss:  ⁃ Bringing your unconscious, conscious ⁃ The stories that run you this time of year ⁃ Bringing conscious awareness to when an old belief is driving your behaviour ⁃ Being a vibrational match for what you desire your festive season to be ⁃ Crashing into old resentment stories ⁃ Boundaries and needs as self care ⁃ Holding curiosity instead of using this new awareness to beat yourself up  ⁃ The stacking of tension this time of year  ⁃ Your money stories at Christmas  ⁃ Altruism vs consumerism  ⁃ The psychology of giving and receiving  ⁃ Shame and guilt of the past and it impacts your present ⁃ Being prideful in your thriftinessTo explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and

Following on from last week’s episode, we give you three super-tangible steps to break free of the resentment cage.In this episode we discuss:⁃ Seeing what it’s costing you to hold firm on the belief systems you already have⁃ Understanding that your children ‘set you up’ to feel as they do - and can you apply this as a universal principle to those you’re in resentment of⁃ Our resentment dynamic holds clues for what it’s like to be in relationship with us…and can we use this for our own growth in how we love?⁃ Our rigidity constricts our children and our flexibility relieves them⁃ Allowing more flexibility within ourselves as we change, so our children can occupy more subject positions for themselves⁃ Our true level of emotional intelligence is revealed when we’re in challenging situations⁃ When we are stressed, we emotionally regress⁃ Letting go of the grip of previous identities⁃ Our world is a conservation of opposites, it’s only our brain that cannot perceive both sides in a moment⁃ The tightrope walk of t

Following on from a listener’s email, we have an impromptu but revelatory conversation on the lived experience of resentment within our family systems. We explore deeply how mothers are ‘not allowed’ to have the complexities of humanity, according to the ‘perfect mother’ myth reinforced in patriarchal motherhood.In this episode we discuss:⁃ Understanding that we only know something, by knowing it’s opposite⁃ The Madonna myth⁃ Continuously measuring your mother against a self-created fantasy ideal⁃ The process that happens inside our brain of remylineating existing beliefs, which reinforces our emotional charges⁃ Understanding that we will resent them to the degree that we’re holding the fantasy ideal up on a pedestal⁃ Our neurochemical addictions to repeated family dynamics⁃ Our addiction to our current neurochemistry reinforced by our polarisations⁃ Rewiring our brain for change is hard⁃ Recognising that if you got what you wanted, there will be an equilibrating loss somewhere else⁃ Finding appreciation for

With modern-day motherhood’s ‘hangover’ (tiredness!), Julie and Bridget debrief Jules’ completely non-PC Hysterectomy Party with a whole lot of laughter, soul and consciousness. Our key reflections were on:⁃ Finding more availability within yourself through lightness ,laughter and self-celebration⁃ Meeting women in the place of no pretence, where shame evaporates, and healing happens through laughter⁃ When we name, and dance with, the fears wrapped up in our next evolution, we take away their power over usWe would love your reflections on this conversation, so please reach out!To explore feminine embodiment, intimacy and relationship in Honey Club with Julie, visit https://julietenner.love/To explore conscious parenting and inspiring motherhood in Reimagining Motherhood with Bridget, visit https://www.bridgetwood.life/

When disconnection and discontent are your primary emotional experiences, it might be time to look at where you’re being asked to crumble your current identity…and let go of self-righteousness?In this episode we discuss:- Recognising where self-righteousness is masquerading as ‘choosing myself’ and ‘being in integrity’ - How to get back into connection with self, partner and parenting - Recognising when you’re running ‘moral high ground’ stories- Seeing the protection strategy in looking for evidence for all the ways you’re ‘right’- The inherent vulnerability in realising there’s so many ways to be right - Realising that surrounding yourself with total support creates further disconnection - Dropping into your heart and out of your head - Noticing a manic energy that ‘needs to prove something’ - Stopping the spiral of ‘You’re so…’ & ‘They’re so…’ - Recognising when your coping strategy is bringing you benefits - Noticing your physiology when you’re ‘on the hunt’ for supportTo explore feminine embodiment,