Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley I need your honest advice here because I don't know how to handle this situation. I'm in my late 40s and in a good relationship with a man my age. We are well above the age of foolishness, but recently we had a big disagreement. I was staying at his house the other night and I got a call from my ex husband, who I still consider a friend. My ex husband is still single and he lives alone. So when he called me at 2:30AM I figured there had to be something serious going on and I needed to go and see about him. So, I got up and was leaving to go help my ex husband.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi Steve and Shirley, I really need your advice. I'm a 32 year old woman and my husband is 37. When we first got married, our sex life was amazing. About three years into our marriage, intimacy became an issue.My husband started making excuses for not wanting to do it. He never wanted to have sex anymore. When we did do it, he would just lie there like he forgot what to do. So I came out of my comfort zone to try to get him excited. I would turn on porn. Talk dirty to him. Go to bed naked get my hair done regularly and even dress sexy. Nothing worked.After a while I started to feel unattractive and unwanted.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a mother of 2 beautiful kids and have been married for 8 years. When I met my husband, life was great and out of nowhere, he swooped in and stole my heart. We dated for a good while before he proposed and I withheld sex until I got the ring. It’s like we knew we were soulmates when we met, so he did not mind waiting until we were engaged to have sex. He took on my two children as his own and we had planned on having one more child together. That was before marriage............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 33 year old single mom of three beautiful children. We recently moved to another state and I had to find a new everything… school for the kids, dentist and doctor. I found a great new gynecologist that came highly recommended by my new co-workers. When I first met my doctor, he took my breath away. Shirley, he’s 6'5” and a creamy caramel complexion, with beautiful teeth, and nice big hands. I was extremely nervous after I saw how fine he was. I was also extremely aroused during the exam. I made a point to tell him exactly how I was feeling and he just smiled and kept examining me........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a guy for six months and he’s one of the sweetest men that I have ever met. This weekend, he disclosed some information to me and I need your opinion. He and I met when I moved out of my condo. He was the supervisor of the moving company that I used and he was very professional and handsome, so when he asked me out, I accepted. We started out as friends and now we’re in relationship.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 33 year old single female and for the past year or so, I have been having a romance with an inmate that has been in prison for 17 years. He’s my best friend’s brother and he tried to date me for many years and would write me letters but I just wasn’t interested. Well last year, I had surgery and I was out of commission for a while and he sent me the sweetest letters and cards. When his mother found out about “us,” she told me he might be exonerated because of some new evidence in his case. I started having mixed feelings about him coming home.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 27 year old female and my man is slightly younger than I am. He's an underwear model for several online magazines and that’s why I fell for him… he has a really great body. His modeling has been an issue in our relationship because of all of the raunchy comments he gets on social media. He loves the attention. He says it’s all just for fun and he never responds to the women and men that hit on him. The attention has really gone to his head and he told me that while he was on a modeling gig last week, a producer approached him with an offer to get into the porn industry............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 26 year old man with 2 children and a wonderful wife of 4 years. My wife recently graduated from medical school and she’s studying for her certification exam, so she is not working right now. She is at home studying most days or she’s on campus with her study group. I had no problem with all of the free time my wife had, nor did I ever question her loyalty in our marriage, until recently. I was using her phone one day not too long ago and a text from “Jarvis” popped up and the message was, “Yes, I’ll come by tomorrow for lunch.” I asked my wife who Jarvis is and she told me that he’s one of her study partners and she asked him to drop by on his lunch break the next day, to pick up some notes................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating someone special for four months and so far, he is amazing. He loves the Lord and he has a great personality and a great career. When we first started dating he did not want to rush sex, so we waited a little beyond 90 days to become lovers. Since things were going so great, I took him to meet my parents. He fit in like a glove and they both told me that he just might be the one for me.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am dating a beautiful, strong, talented woman and everything was okay in the beginning, until we had sex for the first time. She controlled everything from start to finish and she did not let me do anything. She got on top and that was it and it seemed to go on forever. I tried to talk to her and plead with her to let me do some of the work, but she was not trying to have it. The second time we had sex, she brought in toys.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 28 year old married woman and my husband just turned 30. We have a great marriage, but I need you to help me settle an argument. We are both black, but we come from very different backgrounds. He was raised in a poor, urban area that was predominately black. I was raised in a middle-class suburb that was very racially diverse. I often have to tell him that certain things like wearing a du rag outside the house or blasting loud rap music is not acceptable at his age and in the community we live in now......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am dating a distinguished retired man and after our second date, he told me that I needed to have an open mind about sex because he lives an alternative lifestyle. He told me that he is in to bondage and domination. I told him we are not compatible because I’m not into kinky sex. After a few days, he called and told me that he liked me so much, he’d change just for me. So, we’ve been dating for two years and our relationship is great. He never once tried his freaky sex moves on me........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My life could not be more complicated. I'm a 36 year old woman and I've been dating the same man for 21 years. Yes that's right. He's my boyfriend and we've been together off and on since middle school. He was my first love and my first sexual encounter. We have three teenage children and we've been through all of the ups and downs that married couples have but we've never been married. He has never wanted to get married. I wanted to marry him when we were in our 20s but changed my mind because he was not treating me like a queen and making me feel like I was the prettiest woman in the world............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a big problem. Two years ago I relocated for work. Before I moved I had a special lady that I enjoyed spending time with. She was a big fine woman, thick in all of the right places. It's been a year since I had seen her and I was missing her good loving so I called her and told her I was sending her a bus ticket to come visit me. Yes, a bus ticket because a brother ain't rich. The weekend finally came and I was so excited to see her, but oh my goodness when this woman got off the bus I swear I barely recognized her.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in a bad situation and I need your advice. A few months ago, I was in a great relationship and my man and I were happy. I had a male neighbor that I only talked to on social media. My man found out about us sending each other messages and he accused me of messing around with the guy. He said it was inappropriate and I needed to stop, so I did, but my neighbor kept on liking my pictures and leaving comments every time I posted a picture on Instagram............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 46 year old single lady and I am ready for the next chapter in my life. In 1999 I dated a man off and on for a while, but finally ended things with him when I found out he got another woman pregnant. I moved on with my life and he moved to another state. Well, in 2018, he and I reconnected on social media. Since we live far apart, we texted and called each other daily. He told me he was coming to town and wanted to see me. I told him to come by the house, since we were old friends and hadn’t seen each other in many years............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am writing you for advice since I have heard you guys talk about this on the show before. I’m in my mid 30s and I’m an educated man with a great job and I’m financially secure. I was in a 10 year relationship that ended a few years ago and since that breakup, I have had problems meeting women. I have been ignored by women when I try to speak to them or strike up a conversation. I had considered many possibilities as to why women avoid me and I’ve come to this conclusion… It’s because I am an unattractive man and I have realized that my facial features aren't the cutest.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for over 20 years and we have 4 children, 3 daughters and 1 son. My husband is a truck driver, so he’s gone a lot and I’m left to care for the kids. When my husband is home, he tries to step in and take over the father role, but we argue constantly about disciplining the kids. My husband has been driving trucks for 10 years and that’s when I started noticing problems with our son’s behavior. I used to stay up at the school because of his bad attitude, poor grades and fighting with classmates. At home, he was unruly too.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a five month old son who was conceived during a threesome. I had an affair on my boyfriend of three years with a guy that I’ve known all my life. My boyfriend and I were having problems, so my male friend offered me an all expense paid trip to Miami and I didn’t have anything to do, so I went to clear my mind. When I got there, he picked me up and we went to the hotel and another one of his female friends had flown in for the weekend too............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 39 year old engaged woman and my fiancé is terrific, but I need your advice. My fiancé and I met in the Emergency Room, when I treated him for a minor illness. He flirted a little and told me that his mom used to be a nurse, so that made me even more attractive. We went on a date a couple of weeks after that and we’ve been together since then. I do most of the cooking and he prefers for me to only cook meals from his late mother’s handwritten recipe book. Her recipes are really good so I didn’t make a big deal out of that............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.