Tiny Leaps, Big Changes

In this episode, we take a look at why your past doesn't affect your future.   Join Tiny Leaps Plus:  http://tinyleapsplus.com  Part 1: Presenting the Problem  We let our history of outcomes affect our behavior going forward.  We worry that because we've never been good at money it means we never will be We stress that bad relationships means we will never find a good one We spend time believing that because we struggle to eat well it means we can't change that Two things that play a role here is Carol Dweck's model of mindset:  Fixed mindset meaning you believe you are what you are and you need to work with that  Growth mindset meaning you believe you are capable of becoming more of what you are   The truth is that your past can be one of two things:  A historical record of who you are and will always be  A collection of data points outlining lessons learned and outcomes to avoid  Part 2: Diving Deeper  According to an

In this episode, we take a look at why allowing yourself to be human is required for personal growth. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: www.tinyleapsplus.com There are two main dynamics in the personal development world right now. Hustle Culture Manifest Culture In this episode, we'll break these two dynamics down, discuss there pros and cons, and talk about the path forward for your own life. 

In this episode, we take a look at the two requirements to changing your life. Buy the Consistentcy Code: http://consistencycourse.com We often look at personal development and creating change as a process of taking action over a long period of time. In fact I've been guilty of simplifying it in this way too. The unfortunate truth is that this view of personal development does not address the very real problem of getting started in the first place. It doesn't look at the very real mental and emotional obstacles that need to be overcome before any action can be consistently taken. Today I want to dive a bit deeper into these prerequisites so that we can start to build a better understanding of the entire process behind change, taking action, and making progress in your life. Send me a message: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we take a look at why being positive is a choice. Buy the Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Instagram http://instagram.com/tinyleaps Resources Used: https://yourpositiveoasis.com/10-irresistible-traits-people-positive-vibes/ https://www.lifehack.org/293018/15-signs-negative-people

In this episode, I dive into the world of adult friendships and we look at what is required to create new friendships once you are out of school and in the real world. Today's Sponsor is Raycon: Get 15% off at www.buyraycon.com/tinyleaps Send me a message: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps Resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3874845/ https://www.cigna.com/static/www-cigna-com/docs/about-us/newsroom/studies-and-reports/combatting-loneliness/cigna-2020-loneliness-infographic.pdf Additional Resources: https://www.talkspace.com/blog/how-to-make-friends-adult/ https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2017/02/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult/ https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult-4769076

In this episode, we look at what 'making it' actually means. Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we look at the must-read books of July 2020. Recommended by listeners.  Buy the Consistentcy Code: http://consistencycourse.com  Daring Greatly by Brene Brown "Brown explains how vulnerability is both the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment, and the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, empathy, innovation, and creativity. She writes: “When we shut ourselves off from vulnerability, we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives.” Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/39ufgPe How to Be Miserable by Dr. Randy J Paterson "This tongue-in-cheek guide will help you identify the behaviors that make you unhappy and discover how you—and only you—are holding yourself back from a life of contentment. You’ll learn to spot the tried-and-true traps that increase feelings of dissatisfaction, foster a lack of motivation, and detract from our quality of life—as well as ways to avoid them." Get Your Copy: https://amzn.to/2CDsZ

In this episode I share a teaser of my recent interview on the Vitamin Joy podcast.  Listen to the full interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vitamin-joy-with-shelby-stanger/id1517822159#episodeGuid=fa8388db-6342-4131-bc87-a00e8a65cd3f

In this episode, I share 3 things you can do about those tasks you always procrastinate on.  Try Blinkist: http://blinkist.com/tinyleaps Part 1: Presenting the Problem A lot of the things on our "task list" don't get done. We consistently push them off Each day we push it to the next day, and the next day, and the next day Eventually the task sits there, the reminder gets ignored, and we avoid that task completely We aren't exactly procrastinating, we still do other things, but we just can't get ourselves to do this one important thing. Something we can all do to take better action each day is to pay close attention to the areas that we often fail and do something about it. Let's take a look at it. Part 2: Diving Deeper That something can be in the form of: Outsourcing (Can you pay someone else to do it? Would this be worth while?) Improving Systems (Can you make it easier to do?) Question Its Value (Is it really that important?) Part 3: The Solution Outsourcing:

In this episode, we look at a straightforward approach to working past limiting beliefs.  Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem Everyone struggles with limiting beliefs Limiting beliefs often come from minor experiences throughout our lives that get reinforced: Didn't get the job? Maybe you're just a bad interviewer. Failed the test? Maybe you're just bad at math. Always struggled with managing finances? Maybe you just aren't good with money. Always late? Maybe you're just disorganized. Limiting beliefs have a major effect on our lives Limiting beliefs however are not impossible to overcome.  Part 2: Diving Deeper What are beliefs? "Beliefs are our brain’s way of making sense of and navigating our complex world. They are mental representations of the ways our brains expect things in our environment to behave, and how things should be related to each other—the patterns our brain expects the world to conform to. Beliefs are temp

In this  episode, a share a story of starting my first business in college. Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we look at the benefits of having a house plant.  Try Athletic Greens: http://athleticgreens.com/tinyleaps 3 ways plants help improve your mental health Reduces Anxiety and Stress Helps Boost Focus Connection to Nature reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression Tips for adding more plants Choose plants that like  indirect sunlight if you don't have a sunny window. Choose plants that need less water ( like Cacti or succulents) if you forget to water. Ask questions at your local stores about what plants fits your life style, how much water they need and the right kind of soil for them. 11 Ways Plants Help Mental Health Why Indoor Plants Help

In this episode, we look at how to rebuild your self-confidence after having toxic relationships.  Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycode.com

In this episode, we look at the mental health benefits of getting outside more often. Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com What to do if you're having mental health issues Try getting outside Spending time outdoors improves mood by Interrupting the negativity loop in the brain Sights and sounds of outdoors is soothing “It's not clear exactly why outdoor excursions have such a positive mental effect. Yet, in a 2015 study, researchers compared the brain activity of healthy people after they walked for 90 minutes in either a natural setting or an urban one. They found that those who did a nature walk had lower activity in the prefrontal cortex, a brain region that is active during rumination — defined as repetitive thoughts that focus on negative emotions. “When people are depressed or under high levels of stress, this part of the brain malfunctions, and people experience a continuous loop of negative thoughts," says Dr. Strauss.” - https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/

In this episode, we look at how to best support yourself while supporting the people who need you the most.  Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com "In the United States, almost half of adults (46.4 percent) will experience a mental illness during their lifetime. 5 percent of adults (18 or older) experience a mental illness in any one year, equivalent to 43.8 million people." We talk a lot about managing our own mental health, but it's very likely that someone who is close to you is going to struggle with their own mental health at some point and rely on you for support. Do not become a sacrificial lamb Dropping everything that matters to you for the other person Going above and beyond regularly Neglecting your own mental health and life The best way to support someone else is to maintain your own mental health How to take care of yourself: Make time to focus on your own physical health to keep your resilience up Eat healthy Get out and mov

In this episode, we talk about how nobody remembers your failures.  Buy The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com According to a small 2015 study with a sample size of about 1000. 31% of adults have a fear of failure. This can lead to: Inaction Frustration Low self-esteem Negative effects across your entire life Ad What is failure anyway? Here's how I look at it: As long as you keep trying you will never fail. Being "in progress" is not the same as "I've failed". stop treating them the same. If you decide a goal isn't what you want anymore and abandon it then you have successfully dodged a bullet The only way to "fail" is to want something and do nothing about it With that said, this isn't the commonly accepted view of failure. So let's look at some examples of failures that no one remembers: Bill Gates: $110 Billion. Started Microsoft and invented computing as we know it. Started a company in 1972 called Traf-O-Data to provide traffic data to engineers.

In this episode, we look at our negative thoughts. Purchase The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com How Negative Thoughts Happen "Our overall mind state has a certain tone or flavor based largely on the types of thoughts we think. When the deep limbic system is overactive, it sets the mind’s filter on “negative.” If you could look into the thoughts of people who are depressed, you would find one dispiriting thought following another. When they look at the past, there is regret. When they look at the future there is anxiety and pessimism. In the present moment, something is most often unsatisfactory. The lens through which they see themselves, others, and the world has a dim grayness to it. They are suffering from Automatic Negative Thoughts, or ANTs. ANTs are cynical, gloomy, and complaining thoughts that just seem to keep coming all by themselves." Takeaways: Often the negative thoughts we are having aren't conscious. They just happen. They come out of no where This is called Automatic Negati

In this episode, we look at why "take massive action" is bad advice.  Get The Consistency Code: http://consistencycourse.com Reasons this isn't good advice Unclear: What counts as "massive action""? Uncertainty leads to overwhelm and increased likelihood of inaction Invalidates tiny action: When your focus is on taking "massive action" it leads to discounting all the tiny things you can do now or the tiny things that you NEED to do. This also leads to inaction because it feels like what you CAN do isn't enough Massive action can lead to burn out and doesn't consider your current situation (empathy). It's a blanket statement that means nothing. What to do instead Start your goal setting from a place of Empathy. Figure out what your constraints are BEFORE setting your goals Set a goal that is contextual to your situation Create a progressive action plan. Start with the tiniest thing you can do and progressively increase to larger actions Start immediately

In this episode, we look at the effects of learning for examination vs learning to teach. Try Blinkist: http://blinkist.com/tinyleaps Abstract "This study tested whether students who learned with an active orientation would be more intrinsically motivated to learn and would learn more than students who learned with a passive orientation. The active orientation was created by having subjects learn material with the expectation of teaching it to another student; the passive orientation was created by having subjects learn the same material with the expectation of being tested on it. The results indicate that subjects who learned in order to teach were more intrinsically motivated, had higher conceptual learning scores, and perceived themselves to be more actively engaged with the environment than subjects who learned in order to be examined." How to use this in your own life When you need to learn something new for work or for your own life, find someone who is willing to support you and schedule a teaching s

In this episode, we continue our discussion on Personal Development as a form of Privilege. Join Thrive Market: http://thrivemarket.com/tinyleaps Get Adam's Book: http://reframetheday.com Adams Thoughts "Pursuing self-improvement is indeed a privilege, and it can easily become a selfish endeavor. But it doesn't have to end up this way. These practices are also tools to equip us for our collective struggle. To give us the awareness, the perspective, the time, the attention, the focus, and the mental energy to step up when the moment calls for it. To know we have the time and emotional capacity to drop everything to take care of a family member. To show up for a friend who's hurting. To knock on doors for a cause or candidate. To join and contribute to a mutual aid network. To protest, march, and stand in solidarity. To use that privilege for something other than our own pleasure or well-being". In Episode 553 I Said Personal development is a form of privilege. It's something that people who are doing ok