Tiny Leaps, Big Changes

In this episode, we look at how to prioritize yourself and say no to others more often. The Problem I often struggle with prioritizing myself and making decisions that I actually want. It sounds silly right? It should be easy to prioritize myself. It should feel like the simplest thing in the world to check what I want in a situation and act accordingly. But it’s not. Maybe it’s because I like avoiding conflict. And it’s not just me, many people around the world avoid conflict at all costs. Conflict is uncomfortable, it’s scary, and anything that might lead to conflict is seen as wrong. Speaking up for yourself? That’s a big no no. Saying no to a request? Wouldn’t dream of it. Changing your mind about plans with friends? That’s rude. It’s built into our culture but it comes from very deeply rooted survival mechanisms that drive us to take actions and say things that may lead to being liked or accepted. Digging Deeper We live in a world that does not reward no. We live in a world that works only if you comply

I'll be taking the week of 8/31/202 to 9/4/2020 off from publishing new episodes. In the mean time, please enjoy this curated list of re-post content. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

I'll be taking the week of 8/31/202 to 9/4/2020 off from publishing new episodes. In the mean time, please enjoy this curated list of re-post content. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

I'll be taking the week of 8/31/202 to 9/4/2020 off from publishing new episodes. In the mean time, please enjoy this curated list of re-post content. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

I'll be taking the week of 8/31/202 to 9/4/2020 off from publishing new episodes. In the mean time, please enjoy this curated list of re-post content. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

I'll be taking the week of 8/31/202 to 9/4/2020 off from publishing new episodes. In the mean time, please enjoy this curated list of re-post content. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Follow on Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we look at three tiny yet effective ways to practice self-love, even when you’re busy and exhausted. Inner Monkey: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inner-monkey/id1440076093 The Problem How do you practice self-love? How do you learn to love yourself? And, when you are incredibly busy or tired or frustrated, how do you continue to fit it in? Digging Deeper Self-love is defined as a regard for one’s own well-being and happiness. Now of course this idea can be taken too far. There is no end to narcissistic individuals who believe their priority of self at the expense of others is a good thing. But self-love is inherently a good thing. If we look at that definition, a regard for one’s own well being and happiness, it simplifies things. In order to practice self-love we simply need to start paying attention to the things that affect our well-being and happiness. The Solution Get More and Better Sleep Getting more sleep is one of the first things you can do for yourself that can produce the b

In this episode, we look at three tiny yet effective ways to practice self-love, even when you’re busy and exhausted. Sponsor: http://blinkist.com/tinyleaps The Problem The process of growth and personal development can be both challenging and rewarding. On the one hand you realize how much power and control you truly have over the direction your life goes. You realize that all big changes come from the tiny leaps you take every day. And you realize that that means that if you can just focus on your tiny leaps each day, you can in some small way direct the outcomes you gain from this life. On the other hand, you recognize how difficult it is to actually show up each day and take those tiny leaps. You start to see how much internal work needs to go into taking external action. You face failure and pain and sacrifice and all along the way question whether or not you even know what you’re doing. Because truly you’re just making it up and everyone else knows but you’re clueless. Digging Deeper Back in episode 584

In this episode, we look at why trying something once and subsequently failing at it matters so much for finding success. The Problem What if I told you that there is a real reason why you are struggling to achieve your goals? Like a real, solid reason. Not some wishy washy excuse? Well there is. It may not be the only reason, and it certainly isn’t some secret technique that you need to pay me money to learn. But there is a real reason. The reason is simple, we don’t fully understand the process of setting goals and working towards them. Digging Deeper For years the self-help industry has touted the value of setting goals. There have been hundreds of books, podcasts, youtube videos, and speeches dedicated to the topic. We’ve created frameworks and processes and systems designed to make goal-setting easier or more straightforward. I’ve been a part of this too. Because for a long time I bought into the idea that the biggest problem in goal-setting was just that the systems were broken. I thought that if we cou

In this episode, we look at 3 podcasts I recommend for improving your mental health. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: The Problem There are currently over 1 million podcasts out there for you to choose from with over 30 million episodes available. At least those numbers are from April so you can bet there are even more now. So what are we to do?? This week I want to shine a spotlight on podcasts that I think are invaluable when it comes to our mental health. So without further delay let's get into the list. Part 2: Digging Deeper The first show I want to highlight is one you might already be familiar with. It's called Therapy for Black Girls. Now I've got a bit of a confession to make *deep breath* and I'm not sure how to say this so I'm just going to say it....I am not a black girl... I know I know, shocking news. But I've never given this show a chance specifically because of that. I thought "I'm glad this resource exists for black girls and women but based on the n

In this episode, we take a look at one simple habit you can build that can help you set up your day for success. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem One thing we've always known is that starting our days off right can be the difference between feeling successful and productive or feeling like the day got away from you. But how exactly do you go about starting your day off right? The common answer here is to develop a morning routine but morning routines can often be hard to keep up, long, and difficult to fit into our lives. So I started asking myself....if I could only do one thing in the morning to get my day started what would it be? What is the tiny leap,  the smallest, most impactful step you could take? Part 2: Diving Deeper Well it turns out that the answer is stretching. Yeah, stretching first thing in the morning is one habit that, if done can have massive effects on your energy levels, mood, and overall experience throughout the rest of t

In this episode, I share a snippet of my conversation on the Big Questions podcast with Cal Fussman.  Listen to his podcast here: https://www.calfussman.com/podcast Full Interview: https://bigquestions-calfussman.libsyn.com/gregg-clunis-taking-care-of-your-money Instagram: http://instagram.com/tinyleaps

In this episode, we look at simple ways to fit personal development into your day. Even if you only have 2 minutes free. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem Making time for yourself can be difficult. Between work, your family, regular chores of being an adult, your friends...etc life can get hectic and time can fly by quickly. Part 2: Diving Deeper This is even worse in today's world thanks to the expectation from many employers to be constantly connected and always on. So how can you build personal development into your day when you just can't find the time? Or what do you do when the only time you have is the moments at the end of the day when you are too exhausted to do anything? Well here an easy way to integrate personal development into your day to day life. Part 3: The Solution 1. How much time do you truly have? Something I've talked about in the past is that many of us feel we don't have the time to do something, but in actuality it's just that

In this episode, we look at how to deal with personal development overwhelm. Try Better Help: http://betterhelp.com/tinyleaps [YouTube Video] How to Be More Productive: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QhPUoVHkpQ Part 1: The Problem Personal development is an incredibly complicated and frustrating process. Our lives are so complex, there are so many areas to consider, and the list of constraints we face on a day to day basis are quite honestly insane. Then, when we finally make the decision to take charge and gain control, we're met by a thousand different "teachers" or "guides" in the space each sharing their "unique process or system" designed to help you change your entire life....all for just $1,997 dollars and .97 cents. You know you don't need all that...shit you couldn't even afford it if you wanted to. If you had that kind of money just sitting around things would honestly be a little easier. So you decide to just put in the time. You start taking some action and you start seeing some result

In this episode, we look at why the outcome of your actions matter far less than you think. Try Blinkist: http://blinkist.com/tinyleaps Part 1: Presenting the Problem When focusing on improving some area of our lives we tend to get caught up in the outcomes that we create. Did we eat well or not? Did we save money or not? Did we lose weight or not? This makes sense, focusing on the outcomes allows us to measure progress and gives us a guide for what direction to go in. The problem is that focusing exclusively on outcomes ignores the very real value that exists just from the decision itself and the process that follows. Part 2: Diving Deeper Here's what I mean. When you make a decision to pursue something. Like truly make a decision. Not one of those half baked decisions that you never act on but when you finally get to a place where action because natural. That kind of decision causes massive shifts in the way you view yourself. In your identity. No, you don't identify as a runner. But all of a sudden yo

In this episode, we look at 2 concrete things you can do today to start building your self-confidence. Try Raycon: http://buyraycon.com/tinyleaps Part 1: Presenting the Problem So much of our lives and our ability to take consistent action comes down to our levels of self-confidence. If we have it, we feel more comfortable taking certain actions, trying new things, and going for what we want. This relationship to ourselves leads to more successes which leads to an increased level of self-confidence. If we don't have it, we are less likely to take action. That reduced level of action leads to fewer successes which leads to decreased levels of self-confidence. Or at the very least, reduce the overall list of successes you can pull from to create that self-confidence. Part 2: Diving Deeper Unfortunately building self-confidence can be challenging. Ultimately confidence comes through taking action and achieving success. Building a history and building a sense of trust with yourself. But it's a catch 22. If y

In this episode, we look at the state of flow, what it is, how it works, and how to take advantage of it. Try Athletic Greens: http://athleticgreens.com/tinyleaps Part 1: What is Flow Definition:  An altered state of consciousness in which the mind functions at its peak, time may seem distorted, and a sense of happiness prevails. In such a state the individual feels truly alive and fully attentive to what is being done. Part 2: What's Going On? In an article for Psychology Today, Steven Kotler (the same steven kotler) writes: "during flow, the brain releases an enormous cascade of neurochemistry. Large quantities of norepinephrine, dopamine, endorphins, anandamide, and serotonin flood our system. All are pleasure-inducing, performance-enhancing chemicals with considerable impacts on creativity. Both norepinephrine and dopamine amp up focus,  boosting imaginative possibilities by helping us gather more information..." Part 3: How to Get Into Flow Let's look at the r

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In this episode, we take a look at the balance between managing your mental health and dealing with the symptoms of grief. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem Grief is something we all go through. In fact, it's something we are all going through right now. When you hear the word grief you likely think about losing someone you love. This is normal as it's the most commonly used form of the word. But grief isn't just about death. It's actually about loss. Grief: Deep sorrow, especially cause by the death of someone. Sorrow: a feeling of deep distress caused by loss, disappointment, or other misfortune suffered by oneself or others So grief is just about loss. Part 2: Diving Deeper Let's look at this from two angles: 1. Losing someone you love 2. Losing something important In this part we will look at navigating the loss of someone you love. In the next episode we'll look at losing something important. Losing someone you love is hard. The sense of loss is

In this episode, we talk about why you shouldn't get caught up in the individual goals that you've set. Join Tiny Leaps Plus: http://tinyleapsplus.com Part 1: Presenting the Problem When it comes to personal development one of the first steps many people take is to sit down and start setting goals for themselves. Maybe those goals are around weight loss, or perhaps it's about saving money, or maybe your goal is to meditate more often. Whatever the goal ends up being, it's a very straightforward place to start. By setting goals you give yourself a sense of direction and allow yourself to move forward in a structured way. It only becomes a problem when we get caught up in the day to day goals we are setting and forget what we ultimately want. Part 2: Diving Deeper Here's what I mean, more often than not there's an underlying reason for your goal. Why do you want to make more money? Why do you want to lose weight? Why do you want to get a promotion? Why do you want to start a business? Wh