Coming Up For Air - Families Speak To Families About Addiction

Laurie, Kayla, and Dominique discuss control: What can we control? When  we set boundaries, what happens for us and our loved one? They point out  that change requires patience, time, and patience. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Dominique and Kayla discuss finding common ground with your loved one -- or anyone else -- on seemingly intractable issues. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Dominique, Kayla, and Laurie discuss the trauma that can affect families  and loved ones, and how to release it and learn new habits over time. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla explain that in times of conflict,  any interaction with your loved one (positive or negative), can serve to  reinforce using behavior. They discuss how the CRAFT process of simply  removing yourself from the situation can create a paradigm shift in the  relationship. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in   Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla discuss how to communicate with your  loved one in a way that is helpful for everyone by becoming a  "positivity detective." They dispel the myths of confrontation,  detachment, and tough love, explaining how these approaches can damage  the relationship and cause you to miss windows of opportunity to  encourage recovery. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla discuss the importance of knowing for certain that your loved one is using -- illustrating that the greatest value comes in following your instincts, rewarding your loved one's positive behavior and removing rewards when you suspect use, rather than getting caught up in finding the evidence. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Kayla and Dominique discuss a family struggling with alcohol use  and mental health disorders, accompanied by concern over the children’s  well-being. Dominique cautions about when and how to intervene, the  consequences of involving the authorities, and how the CRAFT approach  can help.

Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss goals and expectations -- how greater self-awareness and realistic expectations of our ability to impact our loved ones’ behavior allows us to be more “in the game.” As we continue to focus on practice rather than perfection, the tools of CRAFT can change how we feel and interact with our loved ones, gently shifting the dynamic between us over time. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Laurie, Kayla, and Dominique offer a basic overview of the CRAFT  model for families facing a loved one's addiction - including how it  works, and why it works. In this segment, you will learn how the CRAFT  skill set can be applied to any situation. Laurie also shares her  personal experience with CRAFT and how it helped to empower her own  family. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss the impact that substance use and other health challenges can have on the entire family, particularly when all the attention and energy is focused on one individual. This important and often difficult conversation helps to alleviate the guilt that parents and other care providers feel about such disparities, and shows us how to be more sensitive to those family members who may appear to be doing just fine. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla examine how to approach it when a loved one expresses suicidal thoughts. How do you tell the difference between suicidal ideation and the idea of killing oneself over time through substance use? What opportunities do these conversations afford, and how do you intervene in a way that keeps your loved one safe, while at the same time, fosters connection and supports recovery?  Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Laurie, Kayla, and Dominique discuss a foundational part of the  CRAFT model from module 1: working on your own reactions; looking for  positive moments to step in with your loved one, and moments to gently  step away. When your loved one is not high or using, you can engage with  the person rather than the substance. CRAFT is a long-term process, so  allow yourself the patience to try new things, adopt a different  orientation, learn new skills, and give a relationship space. This can  have a positive impact on the entire dynamic, and a positive influence  on your loved one's choices. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in   Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

When you want something, how do you request it? Hosts Laurie and Kayla talk about developing a communication style that aims to influence, not control. Influence comes from a softer, more open and compassionate position, and it can change the dynamic of the relationship over time. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

How do you decide when and how your loved one can live  at home? Hosts Laurie, Dominique, and Kayla discuss boundary-setting,  and Laurie shares details about her son's journey in living at home. Join  our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s  program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with  experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more at alliesinrecovery.net

In many families, parents of children with substance abuse disorder are taking care of their grandchildren. Hosts Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla and guest Dr. Meme English discuss the complexities of a multigenerational dynamic, intergenerational trauma and substance use, the lack of resources for grandparents, and the need for people to connect to more support in these overwhelming circumstances and know that they’re not alone. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in   Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and  dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Hosts Laurie and Kayla welcome addiction specialist Dr. Carl Erik Fisher to discuss the effects of stress on the body, and to share some mindfulness techniques that are proven effective. Together they explain how mindfulness can help families in recovery achieve a sense of agency in their lives by allowing them more control over their emotions. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

It's important to have a plan for expectations when your loved one is at home, and when they can't stay. Dominique, Laurie, and Kayla discuss the specifics of having a list of treatment and living options ready and waiting. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in  Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue  with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

Podcast 84 With your best Allies From Allies in Recovery

In their work with families of addicted loved ones, Kayla and Dominique have observed how certain patterns are mirrored. In a nutshell, our loved ones with SUD become fixated on their substance of choice, and they become compulsive about using it. Over time, the family member often becomes fixated on their addicted loved one, and finds themselves compulsively trying to fix the situation. Knowing this can be useful if you're ready to effect change...  Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net

(35 min)  Dominique joins Kayla and Laurie and pushes last week's conversation a bit deeper (episode #81). You will hear more concrete examples of how to implement what Laurie calls "the Big Pause" and how to recognize when you're being triggered into a crisis reaction. Join our Member Site today to take full advantage of Allies in Recovery’s program, including 8 video modules, three blogs, and dialogue with experts in the fields of treatment and recovery. Learn more @ alliesinrecovery.net   Membership is FREE during the COVID-19 pandemic.